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[irenerivera]

I am a mother of a teenage boy that is 15 going on 16 I have been struggling with his ADHD since he was first diagnosed as a little boy going through a lot of family issues & family health issues I should say my mother is chronic renal failure hospitalized many times in the last 8 months it has been ongoing for months my sister was diagnosed with endometrial cancer both are very close to my son he has his step father that is amazing but lacks the understanding of his diagnosis yesterday my son act it out in a bully-ish kind of way with the step brother by using a spray can and lighter to show him what it would look like if he had a flamethrower this was done in his bedroom this puts a lot of risk and a lot of pressure on my relationship with my husband because of the child visitation situation that we have work so hard to accomplish is now at risk I'm completely lost and don't know where else to go I'm hurt I'm suffering he's under medication I'm obviously seeking a psychiatrist to speak with him I think he is going through so much he's also being bullied in school because he's very timid so he's built like a football player does not like physical confrontation or connection with people if there's anyone that can give me some advice just to relieve of some of my stress and thoughts and of the course of pain that I'm enduring in my heart any little bit of insight is helpful.

Thank you

Irene

[anirush]

The teen years are so hard. Besides medication my teenage grandson is also seeing a behavioral therapist. I did not realize how much anxiety he had until he started talking to her. She is really helping a lot.

Family therapy might help too but a lot of husbands won't agree to it.

[Alfred200]

Good morning, my son is 13 And has ADHD. It’s a day-to-day struggles But whatever happens you can’t give up Because when you give up he’s going to be all alone you are his first line of defense and last stay strong

[bdhb96]

You have many complicated things happening in your life right now. Not only does your son need a therapist, you do as well. It’s a lot to process all the emotions that go along with this in addition to learning about his disability. This online group with similar experiences is a good starting point but your needs go way beyond that.

Does your city have an ADHD center like the Hallowell Center? Often they can counsel patients and/or parents over Skype or phone. drhallowell.com/the-hallowe...

You can educate yourself about brain development and ADHD by watching online videos from researchers and experts. It’s help me realize that ADHD is a problem of executive function development in the prefrontal cortex of the brain relating to self-control and emotional maturity it’s help me realize that ADHD is a problem of executive function development in the prefrontal cortex of the brain relating to self control and emotional maturity...But it has nothing to do with the lack of intelligence Which comes from the back area of the brain. A person can be quite intelligent but have a very difficult time showing that or controlling themselves due to slow development of their executive functioning skills. The heartbreaking thing that often happens to a team with ADHD is that they begin to believe that they are stupid. With years of repeated negative messages like this, they have begun to believe it and now a host of other comorbid problems exist: extremely low self-esteem, high anxiety, depression. If these go on long enough, it is possible to read to self harm and even thoughts of suicide. Don’t let that happen to your child! Find them help immediately! And yourself too.

And lastly, please, when you’re asking for help from others be helpful in return by using punctuation so it is an easy read. Right now, without punctuation, a person has to re-read portions of your writing to figure out where to break the words up into sentences. It would be great if you can make it as easy as possible for us to help you. You have serious problems which deserves serious respect (instead of very casual way a person might write in a text) but the writing style is distracting. I hope you’ll take this in the positive constructive criticism way that I meant it to be.

Good luck to you and your family!

[Southernbound]

I am 15 bout to be 16 in a couple of months ,I was diagnosed in second grade I have been taking medicine ever since.when your on your medicine mine is concerta I feel horrible I am not myself I don’t talk to anyone I don’t eat ,your depressed,and when your put under that kind of pressure it just builds up like my mama is in stage 5 kindneys failure and refusing dialisis and my daddy has less than half his heart from a massive heart attack that occurred a few years back.I go to a specialist but I have really never talked to her without my parents in there ,but I have always had a friend I could talk to,it is very important when these things happen that you talk to him let him know that your there .