Adhd 13 waking up for day

[jessicasafford]

My son is 13 and adhd. I have joint custody and there are tons of factors. However my son is very difficult and disrespectful to me in the morning when I'm trying to wake him up. He literally calls me a bully. He acts like waking him up for school is torture. He has a very limited amount of tasks in the am. I lay his clothes at the end of the bed so he doesn't have to pick them out in am. Should I not? He gets up fine at his dads house. He has a step mother brother and sister there and my boyfriend and I are at my house. I have him wed Friday Sunday and every other thursday. He's a good kid. He's happy. He constantly jokes around. He makes fun of me but joking. He can be loud disruptive and seem like he tries to annoy me. I know he's not but it feels like it. We go to therapy for adhd stuff. He gets medication which makes most symptoms get 85% better. I get frustrated easily. I wake him up several times. He pretty much ignores me. By the 5th time he's saying I'm mean or a bully. Also why does he have to get up etc. He knows why he has to get up. Mind you he is more respectful at his dads. The other thing is my fault. When he stays at my house, we stop for breakfast at dunkin like 3 days a week. I do this for me because it saves the complaining about breakfast and what to pick to eat etc. Help me!!

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The good news is that you know he has the ability to act differently because he does so at his dad's house. It might be good to figure out what they're doing differently at his dad's house in terms of expectations, boundaries, consequences and interactions and do those things at your house...since they work!

[Laufer]

Are there consequences at school if he is late? Is there a way you can let go and make it his problem and not yours?

We do have a reward system for when my teens are out the door on time. Perhaps dangling a carrot would work better than using a whip.

[nurse_nelly]

PUBERTY! lol my son is 12 and has become SO disrespectful over the last 6 months. Also, he is playing you. My son does the same thing. He plays me when his dad is not around. They can be manipulative...

[slsmendez]

My 7 yo is really hard to get to bed at night and that results in having trouble getting up in the morning. We really try to enforce bedtimes as much as we can but the thing that has helped lately is waking him up with a pet instead. He loves his new dog and it’s harder for him to say no to the dog than to me!

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I think it's partly a teenage thing. Partly he knows he can get away with it at your house. I have 2 teenager boys 13, 15. One on spectrum one ADD. The 15 yr old is torture to get up (ADD). I started making him late for school. If he's not in the car by the time I tell him I take the younger one to bus and then I take the older one to school late. There needs to be consequences and less yelling. If I were you I wouldn't take him to DD if he can't be in the car by a certain time. Hand him granola bar and take him to school. Give him a few time warnings, 10 more minutes, 5 more minutes. Also I have taken my son's phone away on days he's not in car at correct time. Good luck and be firm and consistent with the consequences.