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First Im so glad I found a support group for this. My son is 14 and has ADHD he was diagnosed at the age of 6. Omg when I tell you this has been an emotional rollercoaster. The public schools suck my son is at reading at a 4the grade level his math is 5the grade. When I tell you I'm so frustrated he finally got an IEP FINALLY!! How do you guys deal with this because I always have a mental breakdown. Any feedback will be appreciated

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I understand! It’s so difficult to deal with and the schools are overloaded. I’m glad he has an IEP, that should help! Remember to take care of yourself, too!

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Nikkie4445 in reply to pjv2001

Thank you so much.

my son is 8 ived been dealing with public school for 2 years but this years has been so hard,my son has a teacher that has ADHD and constantly emails me complaining and asking if i have given his meds so annoying!so understand you..

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Nikkie4445 in reply to dianam123

Ooh honey sound so familiar his teacher doesn't have it, but Lord do they complain. These teachers need to be educated on children like ours. It's so sad because our babies are the ones that suffers 🤦

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dianam123 in reply to Nikkie4445

Right!

And then sends me a note home asking what am I doing to help son to focus....ummmm... everything I know off like if I had the right answer...

Thanks for reply

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Nikkie4445 in reply to dianam123

Oh wow I would get notes too. My question is what is she doing as his teacher to help as well. Honestly some teachers don't want to put in the work it's horrible. I got me a lawyer and won I couldn't take it any more

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dianam123 in reply to Nikkie4445

I literally told him what he probably didn't want to hear..

Last..I told him It is what it is ,I am really trying but I still don't have the right plan this minute...

Pray! That is what helps me. My son has his good days and bad days. It never gets any easier.

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Nikkie4445 in reply to adette81

Thank you

Good question. Deal with it one day at a time and with identified issues to address. Otherwise, the behaviors and issues can overwhelm us.

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Nikkie4445 in reply to Elijah1

Yes

I totally understand where you are coming from. My son is 14 as well. He is behind in school. Emotional roller coaster is a very good description. I put him in sylvan learning to catch up and now he has a math tutor and I tutor him in English. Of corse his physical education mark is a 90 so I know he has the potential to learn.

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Nikkie4445 in reply to Jaxy53

Omg yes my son started there on Monday. I am so happy and he seems to like it so far

I would escalate at the school above his teacher who appears to be highly uneducated...

Go to the head of school. Calmly remind them that ADHD an official diagnosis and recognized as a learning disability. Public schools in the US are legally responsible under the American’s Diabilty Act to accommodate his learning differences. You want a partnership with the school. Not a teacher who asks what you are doing to help your child ‘focus’. It’s as bad as a teacher asking a parent what you are doing to help your blind child see! Or your wheelchair bound child to walk. Thank would say something along the lines of “legal action is not my prefered rout and I would much prefer a partnership.” Let them know it is not easy, believe me you understand, but he deserves the best education he can get. Do this all very calmly. That will land the message. Help them remember they are legally responsible.

Any decent school will get a group of learning specialists together to come up with a plan to help support him.

Best of luck.

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