Hello. I am very new to this. I moved in with my partner 6 months ago after 7 years of dating. His and my son live with us. His son was diagnosed at age 5 with adhd. He went to councilor and was treated medically for many years. To my understanding, after puberty his hyperactive behavior changed. He has been off meds for four years.
He does have a job. He barely passed high school. We basically have to put the application in front of him and force him to fill it out. He’s not mature at all. He can’t follow simple tasks. He lies. He has poor hygiene. His father won’t discuss it with me or address it with his son. He feels guilty because he is also a sufferer who never had treatment. So he’s being an ostrich.
My 17 year old gets so frustrated and angry because he picks up his chores. I am frustrated because I was unaware and I didn’t sign up for this young man to be living with us forever. I don’t know how to handle it. I have tried to b supportive. I have been encouraging. Today I lost my mind over the fact he didn’t even brush his teeth or shower before work. Please help guide me