All alone

[marycollins13]

Greetings. I started my son on a new medication because I and his psychiatrist agreed that the old one was no longer effective. However, he began the new medication the same time he was placed into a new class. Now I don't know if he's behavior changed because of the new meds or because of the new atmosphere. He's been on it for the past 3 days & each time I spoke with his teacher, he told me he had a great morning, but after lunch/recess he became a little restless which is understandable. However, he still loses it when I mention Homework, or he has to stop doing something. I still endure all of the yelling ( I hate you, Oh my god, you're stupid, idiot) so forth. He doesn't do any of that yelling with his father, so this lead me to believe he picks & choose and knows what he is doing. His therapist say otherwise, ugh I don't 100% believe her. What if any advice might someone have for me?

[Marebear129]

Give the medicine more time. Go with your gut feeling too about the therapist etc. I am in the same boat deciding on switching my son's therapist. I just watched a video on bullying. While watching it, I realized my son tries to bully me with the yelling, name-calling, meanness. In the video, the focus was on the power struggle with bullies. Reacting negatively to their explosions makes them think they are "winning". Try to respond to your son with either a question, or opposite comment...."he says "I hate you"...you say, "Well, I love you" or "Oh, so you hate me?" it kind of stops the back and forth. I myself need to start using this tactic more with my son. It is hard because society tells us as parents we must not let our kids talk to us with disrespect so we have to control with punishment etc. If instead of feeling like you are being assaulted by your own kid, think of it as you are a safe person for him to explode on because he trusts you and knows you love him unconditionally. Respond with love. Wishing us both peace in the days to come.