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[Queenmomverne79]

Hello... I am a single mother living in DC with a beautiful seven year old daughter with adhd. I need help!!!!

[gracemom3]

I have 2 girls w adhd. It can be very overwhelming. What do you need help with?

[Queenmomverne79 in reply to gracemom3]

Hello Grace mom... I need help with her education and I can't work full time due to her behavior. It feels like its getting worse. I am depressed and need to move and can't because I don't make enough to save. Due to her behavior.

[Georgina1475]

Just wanted to say welcome, it can be difficult at times but wanted to give you a wave and send you a hug. If I can help I'll try, we all will.

[Queenmomverne79 in reply to Georgina1475]

Thank you. I need to know that.

[Izzyxax]

I am a child now adult with ADHD and well for personal experience you should DEFFINATELY get you children treated and diagnosed by doing test like how they preform with reading, math, basic skills etc.). Also if you ever have a chance try getting a documentation of your child's ADHD Diagnosis to show as proof for Schools and College. This will be good if your child needs accommodations for school so they don't feel left behind. When you have it try talking to your counselor and along with your teachers to understand your child's needs. I also say that you should also try getting your child on NON-stimulant medications like Strattera or Intuniv they will be tired or dull but it's way better then stimulants like Adderall which made me in my experience as a Kid violent.

-Hope this helps.

Btw ADHD is also a gift =D like having the knack or being Creative, Leadership, Very Expressive in our emotions etc.) from my personal experience. I'm now a Game Developer and I'm happy that my mother supported my ADHD gift of creativity.

webmd.com/add-adhd/childhoo...

You should also read (Even though it's not related to kids) "The Gift of Adult ADD" By Honos-Webb.

[Queenmomverne79]

Thank you. I have definitely taken those steps. She has the doctors diagnosis recorder at school.. She even has a 504 plan. I feel that with the non stimulants which are my next steps because she is becoming violent.. She got put out of aftercare and it is affecting my job and money. We have been here in DC for 3 years and every school has been no help in her level of need. She is getting worse with her behavior. In the meantime I feel lost because there is not a set way to help her. The more I speak out and up the more I learn. Thank you for your response.

[concerned2 in reply to Queenmomverne79]

I understand momma, I am the same way too. I can only work part time and I am struggling with that but if I work full time I won't have the flexibility to be able to leave if and when the school calls about my daughter's behavior. She is on Adderall XR 5mg which we doubled due to it is not working. She has meltdowns and more angry now and still has issues in school. I just say keep your head up and we all as parents will get through this! I definitely will be looking into the non stimulating medications too!

[Queenmomverne79 in reply to concerned2]

Thanks for the reply. I know I am late. How are things going? I have moved back home since I have posted. I am looking for better days with a better school district. Ttys

[Mmagusin]

There seems to be a great gap in understanding of how to care for ADHD kids within the healthcare and school systems. I believe the behaviors are largely a symptom of a brain chemical imbalance. If you believe that too, make sure you and the school are treating it that way, which means, traditional disciplinary tactics DO NOT WORK and in fact make it worse for these kids. You must align with the school social worker, teacher, nurse, and principle on how to promote positive coping and to defuse attention seeking behavior. If the school is using lots of negative enforcement, it's the opposite of what will work

[Queenmomverne79]

Trust me I have lined with the school, doctors, social workers, educational advocate, family and all.. I am not raising a disrespectful child. She may be a busy body but I will not allow disrespect.. That's with Adhd or any other D.. So the options that children are given are not realistic.. With Adhd or not, children period this day and age are disrespectful.. Because as a society they have the right to be as adult with opinions and demands.. That's not how the real world is... A message can be relayed without force or negativity but I will not allow my child to bully me just because she may have some challenges with a chemical imbalance.. You don't have to spank to get your point across... Every child is not the same and every technique doesn't work.. My daughter will try to out smart you in a defiant manner and try to talk to you like she's your peer... Be all nice and quiet and see won't she work you.. Backgrounds have a lot to do with what coping methods work.. She could never calm herself even as a small bby. She has screamed and cried her way right into eight year old status... It's like waking up everyday pretty much doing and teaching her all over again.. I have had the diagnosis for only about a year. Because she is so smart and cute no one would evaluate her properly until she couldn't march kindergarten year... Trust me Im fully aware of the gap but I'm her Liason...