I'm a 26 year old female. Who wants to grow closer to her mum. Over the years me and my mother has grown pretty much a part. And it's hurting me a little inside. So it all started a few years back when I really began to notice it. See, my mother is a very emotionally distant person in general. I've never seen her cry at all or show any other emotion except anger. Back when her and my dad got divorced that really did something to her mentally and I watched her battle depression and such, even though I was a young teenager I helped her through it. Now fas forward about 10 years later she has become a selfish, controlling, nonchalant person. I never realized it until recently that she is very empty inside and it's almost like she resents me for being born and for my dad treating her like c*** back in the day. She acts very self centered towards me and my step dad. She throw jeers at us and she always throw how she's has to help me still in my face. No mind you I'm a strong, independent person but through the later years I've been struggling a lot with life and my health. She indirectly hurts my feels with the comparisons to others. She doesn't do much with her life, just the basics...work, church, shopping etc.. I feel like she lost her excitement and passion for life. She bosses me and my step dad around like we owe her something just been she takes care of the house. Keep in mind I've already moved out, but I do visit them often. I hate feeling like I'm obligated to her just because she still helps me out financially. But I would rather her be kind and loving than to feel like it's a chore to be a mother. When she was going through and so focused over my no good dad, I still was there for her, but why isn't she there for me emotionally? Why do she not care about anything that doesn't directly concerns her? It's like everything is forced with her even a I love you or a hug. She doesn't build me up at all, she acts like I've done something to her and she resents me for even existing. She is a Christian and honestly she does really act to Christ like. She'll praise me behind my back, but never really to my face. I have no friends or family to run to when I need help. But I'm always there for others, nobody is truly there for me. I feel extremely a lone now and I'm an only child too. Btw my childhood was rough all the way up to now. My real dad never really been around. My step dad is very nice and so is my mom but she has things about her she needs to change before I cut her off honestly.
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