Finding who you are

[Boymom1809]

So I finally have to admit I am a middle age woman, I am 42 and that is hard for me to say (write) I do not feel 42 in my soul I still feel 22. Ive been married for 13 years and we have to boys 10 and 12 and we both have full time jobs, and we own a farm. It's a very busy lifestyle along with the hobbies we like such as camping and skiing. This past year has been pretty tough on our marriage, I've been diagnosed with ADHD but also deal with depression as well. My husband has been supportive and understanding then most. We started couples therapy a couple months ago and I do individual therapy as well. it started off good, but now we are in a slump. I am finding myself questioning allot.. who I am now after 13 years of marriage and 2 kids.. I feel like I have lost myself somewhere along the way and I am trying to get back to that person I once was. I know that is not totally possibly as people do change over the years but I feel like the base of my old self is still there, but I am not the happy person I used to be and the meds I'm on now I don't think are working. ( I have an apt with the dr.) I guess my question is has anyone in a marriage felt lost like this?

[kenster1 Moderator]

hi a lot of what you say I can relate too somehow I`ve just become a bit lost in life and my relationship with my Mrs has suffered. I do blame medication in part mind you.