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Constant crying

Does anyone else ever feel like they just cannot stop crying? I had a bit of an upset at work the other day. Nothing major and it wasn't my fault. A boss who should have behaved in a much more professional manner and who is often very confrontational and volatile made a few comments - not even directly to me - but I felt the impact of it. Have been told repeatedly not to worry, not my fault, done nothing wrong by lovely colleagues looking out for me. However I had a very physical reaction. Went home and sobbed. Spent the next day crying in the toilets at work. I feel like the slightest thing will set me off. I suffer with depression and anxiety and am being treated but I just cannot control this. It just overtakes sometimes. I have tried so hard not to cry at the slightest thing and it makes it very difficult to talk about any issues I have. It feels like my body just does this compulsively as soon as anything upsets my equilibrium. I know I shouldn't worry about this but as soon as it happens my first thought is that I am being over sensitive or seeming to be over sensitive because this is what I got told as a child. I don't see myself as a weak person but I feel people see someone crying and immediately think they are weak.

Thank you

Xxx

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hi crying isn't a sign of weakness look at those episodes as you getting stronger.sometime we need a good cry to get better nothing to be ashamed of.im 46 male and still have episodes of doing the same even in public.

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Thank you kenster1 really helps to know when others feel the same x

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Hi I was told too by my parents I was too 'sensitive' and by others over the years. This is rubbish as you know how you feel and if something upsets you then it does and that's it. You have the right to feel as you do and never let anyone tell you otherwise.

One way I deal with crying is to allow myself a certain time to cry depending on how I feel, then deliberately turn my mind to something else. It doesn't work 100% of the time but distraction is a handy tool.

I would cry at work but never (apart from a couple of times) let anyone else know. I linked it to my depression and feeling out of control whilst being forced into doing a job I hated. It's very hard to force your mind into thinking when you just feel numb or upset isn't it.

I got zero understanding at work both from my supervisors or colleagues and the latter avoided saying anything to me. x

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Thank you so much hypercat54 that's a really good tip. So good to have that support. X

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Good glad I helped a bit. Been there, done that etc. x

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Hi hypercat Really sorry to hear how unhelpful and difficult your work made it for you. It's hard enough feeling the way you do without feeling judged. I hope you have found something better x

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Speaking for myself I have had times when I could not stop crying. Looking back these have been the most translucent times of my life. Tears should never be despised as they are clear windows for and to our souls. I keep the insights I have gained from those times and recollect them often. I hope you find comfort too.

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I actually can relate to this so much. I used to refuse to let myself cry because I thought it made me weak or selfish. I’d push back my tears to the point where it would physical hurt. But after a lot of talking I’ve started to let myself cry again and now it’s like 3 years worth of tears are coming out. I cry at everything, even things I know I shouldn’t be really sad about but I still cry. But I believe that crying isn’t a sign of weakness it’s a release. It’s getting out all the hurt and sadness you feel and that’s not a bad thing. Crying something you need to do and it doesn’t make you weak. If you can own your tears and know that it’s okay to break down that makes you strong.

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