I really just need some insight and help. My mother's behavior has been concerning me for some time now and it is seriously beginning to worry me. I am 26 Years old and my mum is turning 56 in May. She has had a hard past which is understandable and I have ALWAYS been there for her. She has always used me as her anger outlet because I am always the one who took it. I don't feel sorry for myself I just want to know if I should genuinely be concerned about her mental state. I used to suffer from Anorexia and she was there for me as much as possible so I only want to do the same.
Let me explain some of what she does:
She has a HEART OF GOLD and is a diamond of a person...when she is in her good mood. However for a very long time now she has had serious episodes of unhappiness. Take this evening for example, everything for going lovely. she was being nice to me and hugging me and then we sat down to eat dinner. After that I got on my laptop and did some work and she asked me to go out and get my Dad something and pick up some ice cream for her and if I wouldn't mind cleaning up the kitchen after I got back, which I was happy to do so. She was perfectly happy when I left the house with my wife and when I got back 20 minutes later she was in the kitchen cleaning and I came in all happy and talking nicely and she just went ballistic. Calling me all sorts, telling me to f**k off home, calling me lazy saying we always use her like a servant, etc, etc.
To cut a long story short, My partner and I were at my mums place everyday because we want to support her, but out of the blue she will have these episodes where she will randomly start screaming and shouting like its the end of the world, she has even attacked my wife while I was at work. She gets so enraged with anger literally over nothing and will scream and shout...but not normal...like someone has physically attacked her. I took her on holiday to NY and Canada and the whole time there she argued with me and my wife's mum over breakfast, dinner, and got angry when everyone wasn't up at 6am! she can't seem to enjoy ANYTHING!!! she literally can not enjoy anything anymore because she's always looking for something to be upset about. she constantly says thats she's thought of suicide. She has even wished me dead because she found out that I was a Lesbian. Nether the less I have ALWAYS forgiven her...ALWAYS!!! I have always shown her respect and I have always tried and so does my wife but everytime she gets upset she takes it out on us. It has become really emotionally draining because she says extremely hurtful and mentally disturbing things aimed toward me and my wife. On the other hand she is supportive. The fact of the matter is there is so much I could write...its to the point where I can not take it. I have been in situations where I was scared to get out of bed in the morning fearful of the mood she might be in I'm 26 and she treats me like a child.
I really need some advice. Please ask questions and help me in figuring out what is the best thing to do because I can not take it anymore.
She is happy one minute and quite literally FURIOUS or depressed the next there is no middle to it and most the time, no cause!
Please someone help..PLEASE. I will answer all questions as much as I can.