Body image

[betterlife6]

Hi all, I know body image is something a lot of women deal with but it’s been extra bad for me lately. I just get this impending sense of doom and that my body is gross. I lift and go to the gym (and I very much enjoy it) but recently I’m like why do I even bother? My mind is playing tricks on me and it’s horrible. I feel so out of touch and tonight’s the worse it has been in a long time 😞 any insight or help?

[krazy-girl]

So what is bothering you?Sounds to me there's more to your problem than thinking it's all you. How are you doing otherwise? Do you deal with unkind words from others? I feel for you I would like to understand where you are coming from before I say more. Krazy-girl

[betterlife6 in reply to krazy-girl]

I have feelings of inadequacy a lot. And it’s weird because I’m in the best shape I ever have been and I’m in a wonderful relationship where my boyfriend really cares about me. I don’t know if it’s fear from being hurt in the past ( I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship a few years ago) or what. I’ve gone to a therapist to talk it through in the past but I stopped going once i felt better. I might need to go again ugh

[krazy-girl in reply to betterlife6]

Have you actually worked out the hurt from your negative relationship? Until you are able to resolve all the hurt it will always be with you.

Blessings,

[betterlife6 in reply to krazy-girl]

I have to a point but it’s almost as if I have ptsd sometimes. Certain things that are said to me trigger bad memories. Maybe I need to work on that and resolve it.

[PhotoMum04]

It's so great you are taking such good care of yourself! Yes, many struggle with body image and part of it is there are so many messages out there that can make it hard. You said in a reply below that you had gone to a therapist in the past for it. Would you consider going back? Maybe exploring the root of your sense of doom would help. Staying in shape can help your outward appearance but also so great for your general health so I'm glad you go. I don't always enjoy the gym so appreciate and admire those who do! I go back and forth with my image, but I have found some strategies in my thought life to help me look at the positive things about myself. I learned that in counselling and it is still a good practice anytime I am overwhelmed by my insecure thoughts. I hope you can begin to see all the beautiful things about yourself because there is so much more than the outer skin!

[betterlife6 in reply to PhotoMum04]

What a lovely post. Thanks for replying back!! I know that my outer appearance isn’t everything and I need to remember that I am who I am because of so much more!! I definitely want to go back for counseling because I ultimately think that’s the best help for me