I have health issues which bums me out then I eat and too tired to cook or clean. I don't have many friends who eat healthy but need my friends. They eat worse than me. I get frustrated with myself and them. I want to loose weight (and have to according to drs) and they don't seem like they care about this the way I do. I see them eating lots of sweets on diabetes and my heart breaks for them because I care for them. They even inspire me to eat more ice cream like them. I love them and need my support group and want to be kind but loving and strong. Either way, I need positive support to stay on track. I want to be healthy enough to excerise. When I did eat healthy and excersie; I had great success with my MS. Any encouragement?
I need to loose weight: I have health... - Weight Loss Support
I need to loose weight
Good morning, TRYINGTOENJOYLIFE, and welcome to the forum 
Yes, you do need your friends but it sounds like they can't give you the support in terms of eating well so I hope the forum can give you the support in that area. Take your time exploring the forum, join in the chat and ask any questions that you want - members have different approaches and will be happy to tell you how it's going for them.
If you look at My Feed (green circle with H in the middle), you'll see the most recent activity. If you follow this link healthunlocked.com/weight-l... it takes you to a list of all our current activities - the weigh in is 3rd one down, daily diary is 4th and so on.
Perhaps you could make small steps, decide on one thing you're going to change and stick with it. Your friends will get used to it in time. They have to make their own choices. And, when you have a good day, batch cooking is s good way of making sure you always have a tasty and healthy option in the freezer for the days when it's a struggle to prep a meal. Remember, frozen veg are as healthy as fresh and can make life easier
Thank you. When I get a chance, I will review. I need friends who want to loose weight too
You'll find plenty here
How do you respond to friends that bug you to go for ice cream?
I suppose you consistently give them the same reply, that you're cutting out the ice cream, or only having it on a Sunday or whatever. Can you make another choice so when your friend is having ice cream, you have a tea or coffee?
it’s really really hard. “Guys you know I’d love to come, can we hang out somewhere else you know I’m trying to lose weight “. Or if you’re English I’d say “no, thank you very much for asking “. The reward is your health and your figure. Come and join us. I’ve been here 2 and a half years lost a slow 2 stone and wish I’d done it 40 years ago!
Welcome. You will get plenty of support here, there is none finer. You say that your doctors have noticed that you have lost some weight, you also say that when you ate healthily and exercised you were successful with your MS.
I think that is what you need to tell your friends, that you want to stick to a healthy lifestyle on medical advice and to control your MS. Don't be bulldozed into eating something you don't want. What they do regarding their own health is not really your concern and beyond your control anyway, but don't let others try to take control of your health.
My friends would never do this to me and anyone else is given a firm 'No'. It may be that your friends are pushing you to make themselves feel better about unhealthy lifestyles - that happens a lot unfortunately but you do need to put your own health first. Good luck and I wish you all the very best.
Have you thought to try over eaters anonymous. There is lots of support and freindship and groups you can go to as often as you would like and lots of people who have lost weight and kept it off long term.
Hello TRYINGTOENJOYLIFE, joining this forum is the best start to your journey going forward, you are the important one here and you will find rewards in making the best choices that you can to help your health and wellbeing improve, sometimes it is not easy, but boy it's worth it. One day at a time possibly you can make little changes, they all add up. As regards to your friends, do what you want, if you don't want to eat ice cream then don't, could you find something to eat that would be kinder to you like a sorbet, just a thought that's all, but you are the one dealing with your health and you need to do just what you want, as I said you are the important one. I wish you well and hope that you manage to enjoy life, we only get this one. Take care xxx
Thank you for sharing this. I was in a similar situation. Like you, I find all socialising seems to revolve round food and alcohol…and lots and lots of it , high fat and sugar, very unhealthy choices. For the last year I have been working so hard on healthy choices rather than weight loss. . I found that the easiest way to cope was to be fully transparent, all my friends know now, and I do still get annoyed when they say ‘oh have some more’, as psychologically it is hard enough getting my head in the right place . I do have the scoop of icecream and I will have that slice of pizza with them. But now I will take a lovely salad bowl or fruit salad bowl to share, or a plate of healthier nibbles and dips. I don’t eat at all before we meet up but thats to cover calories. I know that its easier said than done, but I keep trying and weight is coming off. Its hard to get the balance but plan in advance if you can so you can keep to a calorie count, wishing you the very best and keep us posted…. You can and will do this in time ❤️.
Welcome back Miss-guineapig and thanks for your support. May I ask if you're still on your weight loss journey or just visiting, either way is fine by us
Thank you for asking TabbyCat….always on a weight loss journey, maintaining or losing (and gaining) and in no specific order 😄. Doing reasonably well and now I have time to view this page again it will be as a great means of support, and I know it will also keep me focused. X
You're welcome, in case you can't find your way around ,here's the link to our pinned posts. Just click on the link, scroll down until you see something that interests you. We do have a special club for "Maintainers", it's the 4th post down. If you don't fancy joining in there, our weekly weigh in and Daily diary are still going strong
Not saying ditch these friends but if you joined a gym , even a slimming club to give you motivation . They are going for ice cream - oh well you are going to the gym . Go out with them but suggest somewhere where they can eat ices and you can have a low cal soda . You don't need to refuse to go .
I have 5 sons . On a rotational basis we eat out . I have 1 decent main course and water or a fruit drink - they have 3 courses and alcohol but I have turned up . We don't just meet to talk food or discuss what is / not on our plates .
This isn't punishment . You need your friends but doesn't mean you can't gain new ones who have similar goals . Will no friends partner you on your journey ?
Have a serious word with them . Tell them like you have done on here why you want to approach eating differently . Only you can determine your future . They may give sympathy , empathy about your weight issues but when you are ill or low or look in the mirror and want a new me then only you can do it . My one regret is not starting earlier as I had a mountain not a hill to climb but my health was suffering and my self esteem was rock bottom .
You will see a difference even early on my skin and hair was better . I started enjoying the food I was eating and the exercise . I loved the praise as I knew it was true. I got a new job as I gained confidence . My wardrobe wasn't full of pull on leggings and tent T shirts that actually made me look worse . I read your story - hey that was me . You aren't unique in what you write .
You can do this . Make your plans . Start Monday - a new journey . We are waiting to hear how you are doing .
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