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gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024
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I haven't posted for weeks,Im eating all the wrong things .Not excercising other than walking to and from the office ,I was doing well and managed to get down to within a few pounds to where I needed to be .

A number of people I know have passed away since before Christmas and I think this has affected me .

Gary

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Imustdothis profile image
Imustdothis2st 7lbs

Hello gman1961, I am so sorry that you are having such a rough time. I would be surprised if people passing away hadn't effected you, it's natural. Are you getting any help at all, using the forum is a jolly good thing to do, stay with us and you might find your mojo to start looking after yourself again, you are very important and we are here to support you. Kind regards and take care xxxxx

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Imustdothis

Thanks Imustdothis ,I'm just not doing what I need to do.Time goes on and another week passes with no chance in the situation.

Thanks for your reply ,

Gary

Lytham profile image
Lytham3 stone

Hey, good to see you back mate, so sorry to hear your news.

You've taken the first step posting, draw a line under the last few weeks, dust yourself off and continue the good fight! X

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Lytham

Thanks Lytham ,just need to get out of this rut. I will do thanks again.

Gary

Lytham profile image
Lytham3 stone in reply to gman1961

Tomorrow is a new day, you can do it! X

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Lytham

Will do thanks Lyham ,Gary

focused1 profile image
focused1Maintainer13kg

Everyone has glitches and sometimes we turn to food for comfort and convenience. You post sometimes about the holidays you have . Would you consider say a walking holiday where you could combine the sun with a bit of exercise. Might not be a bad thing just to get away for a week or so and come back having had a week or so of relaxation and a plan of what approach you can take plus the weather isn’t a great motivator at the moment .

Let us all know how you get on. It isn’t a bad thing to overeat for a few weeks as you have acknowledged what you have been doing and returning to the forum is a positive start. Don’t do any drastic changes. Food can still be enjoyable even when we plan and portion it .

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to focused1

Thanks focused1, I think once I get out on a more regular basis then I will feel a lot better.I am looking at trying to run to work one day which will set me up for the day .

I think that the dark hours seem to have been with us for ages ,previously I would have gone out anytime of the day .

I have a half marathon at the end of March so I have to start doing some miles soon.

Thanks for your reply .

Gary

focused1 profile image
focused1Maintainer13kg in reply to gman1961

2 of my sons doing the Manchester Marathon in April in under 4 hours. I admire runners - I just can’t do it . Agreed dark days are too long . I have felt it this winter . Finally had my gall bladder surgery after 17 month wait so weight piling on as can’t exercise. Mindful eating alone doesn’t keep my weight at maintenance level anymore . I need strenuous Zumba and long long walks . Bought a bike but hate it .

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to focused1

Good luck to them ,It was about 40 years ago when I managed a marathon

I do enjoy my running once I start to get out there ,I do love the light mornings so hopefully I can rebuild what I was doing before ..

That's a long wait for surgery ,I've never done Zumba ,I have a bike but need two new tyres.I have a rowing machine that just needs to be used again.

Gary

Alideer profile image
Alideer1 stone

I’m so pleased you are back with us gman1961 …you’ve been missed more than you probably realise. You’ve been through a tough time and responded in the same way as so many of us do…you’re only human after all. Spring is around the corner which will give us all a lift. Sending positive thoughts to you.🌼

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Alideer

Thank you so much Alideer ,so kind.Hoping to get kick started and concentrate on both eating better and excercising more .

I didn't realise I have been missed , and I need to get back on this great forum and contribute again.

Thanks

Gary

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs

Hi Gary I agree with Alideer you’ve definitely been missed. A number of times in the recent weeks I’ve read and re- read all the posts thinking I’d missed your post so it’s really great to see you back on here. Think this winter has affected more of us than ever before with covid and flu to avoid catching plus the dark nights which gave seemed endless. The snowdrops are starting to grow in neighbour’s garden so spring not far away.

Forget the last six weeks and make a new start you have made the effort to come on here so why not post your weight today and see how you get on. You’ve got a half marathon to work towards so start your running seriously again. We are all behind you and Monday is as good a day as any to start a new chapter in your life . You already know about the support and encouragement you’ll get from the members on here so what are you waiting for ?

Looking forward to you being a member on here again supporting us all as we will support you …..onwards and downwards . All the best to you on your weight loss journey . Sue

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Familytree67

Aw thanks Sue ,I've just not had any get up and go .Every night I just get home change and do nothing .I'll post today and hopefully that will start things off .

Thanks again for your kind words .

Gary

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to gman1961

Brilliant news Gary that you will post your weight today. OH and I always went for a walk round the block every afternoon if we were at home but that’s disappeared. Must start to have a walk around again . It must be so easy when you’ve got in from work and it’s dark and cold to stay in and do nothing . Hopefully you’ll get your mojo back when the weather improves and the evenings get lighter. Have a lovely week . Sue

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Hectorsmum2Visitor

I have found overeaters anonymous very helpful, lots of support and people who have lost weight and kept it off long term. You can go to zoom meetings these days and dont even have to show your face if you dont want to. I have found when I work the steps they suggest I dont even need willpower, I lose interest in excess food. I have lost 30 pounds so far.

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Hectorsmum2

Thanks Hectorsmum2,I will have a look at that site ,I just can eat a full packet of biscuits in 1-2 goes

Thanks for your reply,

Gary

Great loss by the way.

Dietbunny2 profile image
Dietbunny27lbs

Thank you for your inspiration this morning gman - I too lost someone last year and it blew me off course for quite a while - I have only recently begun to get a grip on my weight gain in the aftermath, and even now, I am pretty much where I was a year ago - so frustrating.

But reading your words this morning, and in admiration of your strength and courage in posting today, I have pledged to myself to weigh in again this week, whatever. So thank you :)

I hope you get your mojo back soon. I have no doubt that getting going again - literally, as you prep for your marathon - can only help. All those endorphins speeding around together with longer days and the return of the sun - all so good for our karma (and our bods)!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Dietbunny2

Thanks Dietbunny2,so glad I've inspired someone .kind words .

I'm going to weigh in today instead of Wednesday looking to go on the rower tonight ,good luck to you with your efforts.

We will do it

Gatu

Dietbunny2 profile image
Dietbunny27lbs in reply to gman1961

Still here, still trying! It’s my motto for life I think! Have fun with the rower tonight!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Dietbunny2

Will do Dietbunny2,Gary

Edge1234 profile image
Edge1234Visitor

Welcome back Gary, I don’t post very regularly, but I read all the posts and I did wonder where you had been!

How strange that you got so close to your goal weight and then sabotaged it (albeit temporarily I am sure) is there a pattern here I wonder? I had a friend who has done this twice over losing a great deal of weight, coming within 6/8lbs of where she needed to be, then beginning to put the weight back on. I am no psychologist but I did wonder in her case what was actually stopping her getting to the point where her weight did not have to trouble her to the same extent, did she in fact need to have ‘worrying about her weight’ as a significant issue in her life - I don’t know…but I observed it as being really strange for this to have happened twice. I have lost touch with her now unfortunately, she was a work colleague at an old job, but often wondered if she ever achieved her full amount of weight loss.

Anyway, it sounds like you are in a good headspace to get back on track now so good luck with it - you will smash it I am sure.

Xx

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Edge1234

Thanks Edge1234,So much support on here , normally I support others .

So glad I'm on here again

Thank you again,

Gary

Gizmocat profile image
GizmocatModerator13kgMaintainer

Hi. Good to see you back. A lot of us have struggled with the miserable weather and short dark days. Adding the deaths to that makes it very hard but you know you will get lots of support here and you have made the right decision.

Spring is round the corner and the days are getting longer. I hope you can get out for some runs to prepare for your half marathon. The exercise will make you feel better and help with the weight loss and getting back on track.

Maybe plan some healthy meals for this week to get you started and post them on the daily diary. Also come over and see us on the weigh in and post your start weight.

Hope to see you there and making a fresh start.

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Gizmocat

Just started with healthy eating today,looking to get back on track with excercise and weight ,Thanks for your support ,

Faey

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Gizmocat

Meant Gary

Wine profile image
WineHost7st 7lbs

Oh Gman so very sorry to hear about what has happened to you but so very happy you have posted and sound as if you are back... I have missed you so really happy you are connecting againRunning to work sounds brilliant or half run half brisk walk this all sounds amazing 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️

Whatever you do this week i hope it's the start of great things and that marathon in March sounds amazing

I also admire runners... I really can't or won't do that... Its too up and down for me if that makes sense... I don't think I have any sense...

I know it's really hard to get motivated once you have stopped so I absolutely love your post... All the best and have a running spectacular week

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Wine

Thanks Wine ,had a good day didn't eat anything I shouldn't have .Looking to go on the rower later ,thanks for your support Wine .

Gary

Wine profile image
WineHost7st 7lbs in reply to gman1961

I am so happy you have your mojo back... Enjoy your rowing

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Wine

Will do Wine ,Thank you ,

Gary

TheTabbyCat profile image
TheTabbyCatAdministrator10 kg

Hi Gary it's lovely to see you back. Sometimes I begin activities then for 1 reason/excuse or another I just stop doing it. I've found that giving myself very precise boundaries I keep things together. Up until now my biggest success is the cat's litter boxes, they have to be done on 2 precise mornings a week 🙀 I've applied that rule to the NHS 5 week get fit plan ,too easy for you but the principle is the same. I have to do those exercises on 3 definite mornings every week!

Please keep looking in,there are loads of shoulders to lean on :)

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to TheTabbyCat

Aw thanks TheTabbyCat,Good luck with your plans .

Thank you for your support ,

Glad to be back .

Gary

docmar profile image
docmar1st 7lbs

This is not a good time of year as far as losing friends colleagues and relatives! You're probably suffering a bit from SAD (as well) so don't stop the walking! I feel for you, last week I heard that 3 long term colleagues had died and it certainly doesn't make anyone feel very jolly. it will take time to come to terms with it but as so may people here have said, you've got people to talk to on this forum. When you are in the mood, you'll be able to motivate yourself and do what you've done before - you know you can do it! Everyone here is rooting for you. Take care of yourself.

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to docmar

This year has been so bad ,I appreciate things given so many people are I'll etc I work in the care profession and that makes you think about things more .

Thanks for your support docmar ,

Gary

docmar profile image
docmar1st 7lbs in reply to gman1961

sorry its so difficult for you gman1961 I hope things get at least a bit better for you soon. The care sector is not an easy place to work, so look after yourself x

Cat33 profile image
Cat33Restart Dec 2023

Oh Gary I'm so sorry to see your post Just be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time

You have done so well in the past and losing people is bound to make you feel the way you do

Look at how many responses you have had and just how many people care about you on this forum

Take care you know I'm wishing you all the very very best

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Cat33

Thanks Cat33,Not been the best start to the year ,

With lots of people dying ,one I had known for a long time ,they actually telephoned to say how poorly they were.

Thanks for replying ,nice to hear from you ,

I have been eating rubbish as well as not excercising.

Hope you are well,

Take care

Gary

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Cat33Restart Dec 2023 in reply to gman1961

Gary I'm sure as the days go by you will start to feel better and get back to eating healthily and exercising but for now don't be too hard on yourself You have been through a very sad time Take good care of yourself

purple_ums_2 profile image
purple_ums_219kg

hey Gary - nice to see you back. I’m sorry to hear you’re having a hard time atm. It can be really hard to find the motivation. Have some self compassion for all that you’re dealing with and take it a day at a time and a step at a time. You’re doing great. I lost my gran just before Christmas and the grief comes in waves. I try and just take a breath and do what I can and not be too hard if it all goes to pot! We’re all here for you if you need to get stuff off your chest etc. hang in there xx

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to purple_ums_2

Thank you purple_ums_2Christmas is a difficult time and it's association with families.

Sorry for your loss.

I've just had my first day in months of not eating rubbish and I've just done a you tube rowing workout which again I've not done for ages.

Pleased that I'm back on track ,

Thanks for your support.

Gary

Imustdothis profile image
Imustdothis2st 7lbs

Hello gman1961, I just wanted to say that it's heart warming reading all the texts you have had. I used to be a carer in the community, it was really full on but most enjoyable. I hope you enjoy your job in the care profession. Take care xx

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Imustdothis

It's stressful and at times I can't switch off .That's why I think excercising helps as it's a distraction from other daily demands.

Thanks for your reply Imustdothis,

Gary

Imustdothis profile image
Imustdothis2st 7lbs

Morning gman 1961, how are you doing today, I wish you well and hope your day goes well. Take care xxx

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jennilouRestart Jan 2024

Hi Gary so sorry to hear that you have been feeling so down lately and being in a rut. But you have made that first step by getting back on here and opening up. Many of us have been there so we understand how you are feeling. But looking at all these posts shows that you are truly missed and how everyone wants to help you get back up, dusted off and starting again. Tiny steps are the way to go and bit by bit you will get there. Great to see you back here and try that run for one a week to work. Lots of positive thoughts to you and good luck with the marathon:)👍💪⚔️

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to jennilou

Sorry jennilou ,Looks like i didn't reply

Thanks for your reply.

Gary

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to gman1961

I did 8k on Sunday ,I'm trying to look at my good intake again

I was disappointed at only losing 2lbs but it's a start .

focused1 profile image
focused1Maintainer13kg

Hi Gary . Any update ? How are you ?

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to focused1

Not bad thanks focused1,Managed to do 8 k on Sunday ,still managing what I eat .Allowing myself the odd treat .

Hoping to carry on and keep on track ,

Thanks for asking ,

Gary

focused1 profile image
focused1Maintainer13kg

Great news . Making a start is hard but carrying on is harder .

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to focused1

I need to get in another good week ,thanks focused1. Gary

focused1 profile image
focused1Maintainer13kg

And you will

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to focused1

Thanks for your support focused1,Gary

HS90 profile image
HS90Restart June 2023

Hi gman1961, I hope that you are feeling more well in yourself and am very sorry to hear of the struggles you have been coping with. Right now, you need to focus on your mental health, but please do stay connected with the forum. As long as the desire to continue your weight loss journey is there, then it will turn to action one day when the time is right. Hang in there and we are here for you to turn to when you need it :)

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to HS90

Thanks HS90 ,I'm in a better place now thank you.

I have not done much running as I was full of a cough and cold a couple of weeks .

I have managed 5.5 miles walking today which I enjoyed .

Thanks for your support .

Gary

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