Big belly lad

[Spade57]

Lost direction over the last few months , all out off control , all down to emotions ,work , 🙃

[Diana]

Fix the emotions , get back on track, simple, good luck!

[Spade57 in reply to Diana]

Thanks , 😁

[Spade57 in reply to Diana]

How do you fix all the crap of work , people and things ? That's a hard one to deal with , I haven't so far been able to sort it out , yoyo ing

[Diana in reply to Spade57]

You don't fix all of it, food won't really help, chat with folk that matter, and try to find solutions

[Spade57 in reply to Diana]

Yes , true , get to a stage , and you/ I say #%%^+. Can't keep this stop starting month after month, don't want it to take over my life , and it all starts with being happy 😊

[Diana in reply to Spade57]

We all get to points that need serious help, a decade ago, my hormones kicked in very nastily, severe sleep deprivation, I needed help, which I got, and tackled two other nasty symptoms.

Bring fatter only made life tougher, I dealt with stuff as I could, and changed jobs, quite stressful at times, I coped , survived and realised cat cuddles are far better than food at comforting me, and no calories too!

[Spade57 in reply to Diana]

Thanks for taking the time for me , and hope any negitvity don't rub off onto you from me , 😂

[Diana in reply to Spade57]

It won't I'm at a different phase, and a different stage of weight loss.

Be strong, you'll feel better for it, when you take control

[Spade57 in reply to Diana]

Yes , will be , strong ,

[Activity2004 Visitor in reply to Spade57]

You try to ignore the negative issues at your job and just keep going. If you pay any attention to the negativity that is going on at your job, that can make a person feel really drained and stressed out. I have people like that where I work, but I ignore and just keep working non-stop. I'm a Recreation Assistant for a Senior Center.

[EllaMidlands]

Draw a line under the last few months, you can't change that now. You can't control events in your life but you can control your reaction to them. Controlling your eating can be really empowering. Start right now!

[Spade57 in reply to EllaMidlands]

Good = comfort , take that away nowt , 😊

[Diana in reply to Spade57]

Find something else!

[Spade57 in reply to Diana]

I sorry , I am very negative the now , I am just struggling to get back on track

[Hidden]

I would try changing one thing at a time, you can't just fix emotions just like that. Make a list of all the things which are not good. Literally every little thing. Then try and tackle one at a time. For example, if you eat too much chocolate, tell yourself you'll only have one bar instead of two...whatever the example is, it obviously doesn't necessarily need to be choc! If your job is horrible, can you try and change it? My big thing this year has been giving up alcohol. It was getting to be a very bad habit and was affecting my life more than I realised. So I stopped on Jan 1st. Was hard but now not an issue. Am now working on getting fitter and have joined the gym. You can't do everything at once, but take the time to plan what you want to change. Good luck.

[WinWeight]

Join the happiness challenge ASAP. They focus on thankfulness. The main thing I learned from that challenge was: I don't reward negative people or events if they disrupt my life. It's their problem. If there are too many things to get done, it's their problem. I can't organize more hours in a day and eating doesn't turn the clock backwards.

This said you may know that I struggle every day with comfort eating and my fridge! How I got like this? So, I'm thankful that I changed it. I'm so glad for places like this forum. You will cast of this negativity. You identified the problem and told a whole bunch of people about it. Now you can declare war!

[Itsbab]

Hi Spade57 I hope you feel a little better today from all the advice given already.

I can only add from experience as someone who has felt underconfident in myself and overthinking comments/problems/situations others have installed on me over the years food made me feel good to start with but was my enemy at the end of the day that's how last year I was my biggest ever.

I can only say for myself I have learnt that actually I matter and I can spend time and effort on me without feeling guilty for it.

Situations I cannot control I have/am learning to not worry about. Other people's opinions of me ( which used to worry me greatly ) I don't give a damm about. Sometimes people /work/family expect too much from you and you can only do what you can and sometimes even nothing at all.

You matter spade57, you are worth spending time on yourself and as a human can only do so much.Take a breather think what you can do something about and put aside what you can't. Make a plan day by day, include good foods and cut out caffeine, spend just 15mins doing something just for you take a walk, bath, listen to favourite music ( that lifts me greatly) or just sit, close your eyes and listen to the peace and quiet.

Lastly if there's something really bothering you sometimes we just have to talk to whoever it is about whatever it is to clear the air.

I did and can still suffer from emotional eating but now I can pull myself back from it. You are in control of you and you can turn emotional eating around because you are worth the effort. Best wishes Bev

[DRS54]

Hi, don't let the b******s get you down! Try and find something that you can feel positive about, change one small thing in your diet and take it from there. You are worth it!