I had considered myself 'more or less' healed earlier this year, after 36 years or so of feeling utterly revolting. Then I had to move - vile millionaire landlord gave me notice after 8 years and I had to move within 6 weeks. So, decorating & scrubbing house to get my full deposit back. Then I managed to find a new place, got here & discovered it probably hasn't had a deep clean in 18 years (ie since my new landlord first owned it). So more scrubbing, steaming, painting. Plus a psycopathic neighbour has been hassling me over the communal car park. My son & grandson visited on Sunday, my son parked his van behind my car; ar*ehole neighbour knocked my door at 4.30pm saying his wife couldn't get her car out tomorrow at 6am. Well she would be a very poor driver if she couldn't simply drive round the back of my son's van. But my son was leaving at 6pm, so neighbour was somewhat jumping the gun.
So - masses of horrible stress. Boy, did my adrenals go down. I felt like I did way back in the 1990's. We Hashi's sufferers definitely need to keep all stress away.
But what should we do when it hits us ? I truly was not ready for nightmare neighbour. I need tactics to protect myself.
Hi Marigold, Pat yourself on the back for all the feats you have accomplished lately. Moving anything seems harder as one gets older, ourselves included.
As for your neighbor I look upon it all this way: If you took a dog for a walk you know what to expect right? The minute the dog sees a squirrel for example it is off & running. You know dog behavior & exactly what to expect. You've learned to take their behavior in stride. It is what it is. Now you know your neighbor's behavior or have a fairly good inking. There should be no future surprises, it is what it is. In the same light you now should know likewise to expect such behavior, he won't disappoint! Expect the territorial stink over parking, the stink over this, the stink over that. Can you take it in stride?🐶
I urgently need to learn to take it in my stride!! I've analysed it - it's still because I was brought up to be a people pleaser and obviously he was not pleased
So, sadly, I maybe have to say to myself - "all people (particularly the opposite gender to me) are psychopaths until they prove otherwise to me. If you follow my posts and replies, you will learn that my illness has made me cynical, wary, possibly got the tail end of PTSD, etc. I must try to do better !!
I look upon it 'Oh that's just so & so (whatever his name is), that is just the way so & so is ...' He may be projecting some running feud with the previous occupant for all we know. He is preprogrammed I'm afraid like some dog sporting about. Oh, that's just him.