Is 32 and bottom line can’t cope with life. I think he’s got some form of autism/mental problem but has never been diagnosed. When he was small he smashed all the windows at the side of the school for no reason other than I wanted too did damage to a farm next door and other stupid things for no reason. Back then nobody had heard of autism or understood mental problems.
On the one hand he is highly intelligent got a 2-1 at university though done nothing with it, he sits at a computer all day and I mean all day not realising he needs to wash and keep the flat clean. He left university and has had a number of jobs where he’s irritated other staff boasting of his degree and upsetting other staff members until he’s got the sack. He seems unaware that his attitude to people is not acceptable and has been unemployed for two years now happy to live off the state unable to cope with the world. He has a girlfriend who lives with him 11 years younger a nice girl but admits she is retarded in many ways having had a bad upbringing with abusive parents. I'm not being unkind but it is the truth when I say he has always been attracted to other people who are not quite right in some way. Credit to her she has a job and has been trying to hold things together since he went off the dole because he couldn’t cope with having to sign on and being around other people he seems paranoid about things.
He suffers from depression and has been on medication for a year I wonder if the medication is making things worse.
For the past few months he has been smoking marijuana and I think this has contributed to his problems which were bad enough without this. His girlfriend loves him but now says she can’t cope with his mood swings he shouts at her and when she gets home from work and can’t seem to stop talking keeping her up all night so she can't sleep.
To help out we have paid their rent on numerous occasions and helped out with bills I think the idea he would end up moving back with us terrible now we are in our sixties and finally able to enjoy a bit of life since he moved out.
We have all tried to help and advise him until we’re blue in the face he nods but nothing changes.
Yesterday he came to see me and couldn’t string two words together that made any sense he has always had a problem with concentration. Yesterday I realised just how bad he was he does a good job of putting on an act for people playing a part that is not himself.
He has been to see the doctor since he’s got worse but has trouble communicating with her just sits there, so his girlfriend is going to make an appointment and go with him so she can speak to his doctor.
Don’t know why I’m writing this I think because it’s just done me good to get it down in print. Any advice would be helpful.