Anxiety levels inc

[Roukaya]

As I suffer from IBS which appears when I am very stressed

I live alone and since I cared for my elderly Father who is now gone I have been trying with a Post Grad Course and I keep failing and I try to find work experience in Wills and Probate

Now when I see the Coronavirus virus I lose total motivation to keep going

I have a Mother alone in Mauritius who was due to visit but has decided to postpone her journey as she is an elderly and vulnerable adult

I even question the purpose of my own life

[bookeater]

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Ring the Samaritans when you feel so bad.

[Roukaya in reply to bookeater]

Dear Bookeater

There are times Samaritans are helpful but also I have experienced them cutting me short

Infact I used to text the Samaritans and I was told Samaritans are there for those who are suicidal and not for the me to use the Samaritans as a Pen friend

This made me feel bad

This morning when I spoke to a lady of the Samaritans she ended my conversation

I do not like to be rejected like this

[Houseofpain in reply to Roukaya]

A point about samaritans having regularly used their services, as in life, some are lovelier than others. If you are talking to somene and don't feel comfortable, just let them know or say you are going to leave the conversation then call directly back and speak to someone else. You don't have to be suicidal to call. You can call to discuss your thoughts If someone makes you feel guilty, call back. Hope this helps x

[Roukaya in reply to Houseofpain]

Dear House of Pain

An original and descriptive name

I think I should agree there are some at Samaritans who are kinder and more skilled in listening than others

I think due to my own anxiety and depression I see things in one way only

I remember one time I would never allow my fears to get the better of me

I am deeply saddened that my Mother had to postone her journey due to impact of the Corona virus

Thanks for kind advice

As in life some are kinder than others

[Houseofpain in reply to Roukaya]

Thank you. Hope things improve for you and your mother. Don't give up hope.

[Roukaya in reply to Houseofpain]

Dear House of Pain

Thank you for kind words

Hope all goes well for you

[Carlettejaque]

Please don't lose hope. I too suffer with IBS and have done for many years. I looked after my parents until they passed away a decade ago. It is hard and stress doesn't help. But never question your worth. You are important in this world. You are a good caring person. It's very difficult to stop anxiety but every time you feel that way give yourself a few minutes to take a breath and relax. If you can get out go somewhere in a natural surrounding and try to enjoy the little free things in life. I would also suggest some kind of absorbing hobby.

As for the IBS if you haven't already done it try an exclusion diet starting with dairy/lactose then yeast, soy and finally wheat. Keep to a very low Fodmaps diet and dont eat spices for a while. I've heard a lot about leaky gut causing IBS the treatment for that is pro biotics that work, not many do but someone recently told me Symprove does but it's not cheap. I'm going to try it for a week and see. Please be reassured you are worth your weight in gold, don't give up. Good luck.

[Roukaya in reply to Carlettejaque]

Dear Carlettejaque

Thank you for your kind words

I think after caring for an elderly Father I turn towards my Mother

I am an only child always a loner given what I have experienced in life so far

I only have IBS if I have chronic stress

I know herbal teas, as well as a course of Mebeverine from your Gp can work wonders

Diet as well to reduce chocolate in my case

I think I often go to Mautitius when I find life too much in UK

This can also explain the spate of failures this is why I decided against going until the end of the year and this is why Mum said she would come

But given the uncertainty surrounding Coranvirus I advised Mum against coming as she had Coronavirus

I experienced a great deal of crisis situations when looking after my Father who had dementia and was eventually sectionned

I beseeched for help and no one listened in the years after three very hard years Dad got the help he needed

Again the lesson is to keep trying no matter how hard the process is

Just because I face rejection in what I hope to do this does not define your self worth

I turn many times to others but if sometimes others humiliate or offend me as with some family members I get sad

But I realise such cruel remarks are said to cause hurt and pain so I can see beyond this

I thank you for your kind answer and through patience you will find a way of managing your IBS

Thank uou

[LEENOL48]

Hi Roukaya I feel your pain I have lost both my parents, but no matter how bad it gets there is always light at the end of the tunnel in a few weeks the clocks go forward which means longer days, warmer weather and just an all round better feeling, as for this coronavirus in reality the population of the uk is 67 million so far roughly 800 people have got it so not even 0.2% of the population. Keep your chin up I'm sure you'll crack the post grad course in time, and at least your mother is only a phone call away.

[Roukaya in reply to LEENOL48]

Dear Leenol 48

Thank you for your encouraging words

It is very kind for you to understand my concern

Losing both parents is hard as I lost my Father two years ago and I was his carer and Attorney

I expect you can see matters clearly as you have lost both parents

I am trying to resit the exam and apply for work experience in Wills and Probate but as I was looking forward to see Mum this has hit me

I think I should keep trying

I suppose my self belief and resilience is no longer the same and when I lost my Father I would spend a great deal of time in Mauritius and then return to UK to study

After a spate of near failures I decided to concentrate on studying again and my motivation decreased as Mum on my advice has postponed her journey

I think being lonely and a chronic worrier makes me question my purpose in life

We are never the same when we lose some one dear and I thank you for showing such understanding

[LEENOL48 in reply to Roukaya]

Your welcome but what a nice option you have to study in Mauritius but is best to keep your mum safe and I’m sure when all this virus thing has passed things will start to fall into place for you and you must have a talent to be studying law try not to worry so much you have a gift and I’m sure in time you’ll be helping people with legal stuff

[Roukaya]

Dear Leenol

I am studying for a PostGraduate on line course and this is why I was able to bring my books with me but I have experienced marginal failures

But I had studied law twenty years ago but did not qualify and since losing Dad I would like to help the elderly as I think Solicitors’s charge far too much to those who need the help the most

I volunteer at Age UK and law is extremely difficult to try to get into

I am trying to apply for work experience in Elderly Care law

I hope you are coping with your own life

And managing with your own responsibilities

Thank you for your kind words

I find talking helps me a great deal

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