I write from time to time and as I live alone I find myself feeling overwhelmed and exhausted with anxiety and sheer fear
I only have my Mother who lives abroad and was due to visit me today but had to postpone her trip given the risky nature of Coronavirus
Deeply sad as I do not work and for the last three years been trying to obtain a PostGraduate Diploma in Elderly Care law and a work experience work placement
At the age of fifty I am trying and it is something I hold dear but the worry over my Mother who lives overseas alone and myself also alone makes me question the purpose of my life in UK
I am sad and tired and if I continue to try without s see any success I will realise this is simply not meant for me and I will give up
I feel like my life is going no where
My sadness and anxiety as well as loneliness
Will cause IBS
I would be most pleased for someone to kept in contact with me during this turbulent times
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I am doing ok. I have my moments where I get upset but thankfully have been able to talk myself down. My IBS has been ok. 🙂 You are right, day by day is the best approach. Easier said than done I know.
Sometimes I think we worry too much about the big picture. I know that I too have been hyper focused on what exactly my purpose is. I have been stressing about it. Recently I started listening to an audiobook in which the author says that we worry about it and never do anything because we are focused on the big picture. We need to break things down into smaller ideas and steps. You said that you are taking steps to get your diploma which is great! While you are waiting for your diploma are there other things that you can do in that area in the meantime? Or are there any hobbies you enjoy?
I am trying to study for Wills and Probate which is an on line Post Graduate Diploma
I started studying for this in 2017 and I have failed the exam three times two of which were near misses
I volunteer at Age Uk and give telephone advice once a week
I used to go swimming and attend the Gym but I will suspend this due to the Coronavirus
I used to go for day trips all over England again postponed due to Coronsvitus
As I studied and failed the exam due to spending much of year overseas as my Mum lives overseas I decided to remain in U.K. until I sat for the exams in May and Sept and this is why my Mother had decided to visit
Again postponed due to the risks
It is the loneliness and anxiety which causes my sadness
Oh my gosh! You are so busy! You have so much purpose!!! I understand how frustrating failing the exams can be. You will pass, just keep trying! You’ve got this!! I am always up for talking if you are feeling lonely. I know it isn’t the same as seeing someone in person, but sometimes a little chatter goes a long way. 😁
You definitely aren’t a beggar, so please do not feel that way. I am up for chatting whenever I am able. Seriously. You take care too, and don’t be afraid to reach out
I’m so sorry to bear about this situation- please don’t give up - this will pass.
I’m a psychotherapist in the U.K.
I am offering free zoom check in sessions for people isolated and struggling with covid 19 issues. If you give me your email address I will arrange one with you.
How are you doing now? Things are very frightening but it will pass and I think quicker than expected. We will get through this and look back with relief once it’s over. It must be really hard not being able to get out and exercise. There are loads of videos on you tube, not the same but still good. I’m thinking about you.
I’m really sorry that you failed your exams. If it was only by a narrow margin though then would you try again as surely that means you could pass next time? I decided a few days ago when I was feeling sick and anxious that I just have to be positive to avoid falling to pieces so I’m trying to look at more positive posts online, funny stuff etc. I do believe amidst all the selfishness we’re seeing that there is also a lot of good, people looking after the more vulnerable, setting up online classes etc. My ibs has made me realise how much our emotions affect us physically. Is there anything you can do from home to try to lessen your anxiety? It’s hard when you’re worrying about an elderly parent though.
I hope you are well and thank you for replying to me
I think in my view what is causing the increased anxiety is the fact that I have not worked for many years by caring for an elderly Father and managing his property portfolio which almost faced bankruptcy
Now as he has gone I only have an elderly Mother who lives overseas
I am reliant on a small property which I rent and this is my income
The tenants leave next months and I suppose I am worried as to when I would be able to find new tenants
I learnt that my Father in his old age was very ill and unable to manage his finances and was involved with a younger woman who took full advantage of an elderly and mentally unwell person
I protected Dad as much as I could and tried to salvage what I could
He died two years ago but it was a process that has taken its toil out of me
I am aware of this looming crisis that it will have a severe impact on people’s livelihoods
I will have no choice but to utilise some of my resources until I find a tensny
Also if I was working I would not be so anxious
I hope you are able to manage emotionally and financially
Hi,I’m no miracle worker,but I just read a Psychotherapist has offered to help you,and neither of you want to put your email address on here. Understandable so. But do you realise you can both go private on here.
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