In view of the upset it causes you, it may be an idea to think of a few witty and funny answers to respond with eg. Looks can be deceiving, you don't look stupid. Just keep practicing it (you don't want to burst out laughing when you say it, but you don't want to say it incorrectly either). Keep your pecker up.
I am so sorry you feel you were discriminated but us elderly ladies (and I am one) don't always put things over correctly. But one thing we do that is good is that we talk to people no matter who they are. I find sometimes that younger people don't wish to talk to me in fact they ignore me which could be considered ageism. I have been reviewing your posts and feel for you so just a suggestion look up The Shaw Foundation they may be able to offer you support. Please take care
I am so sorry you were upset by that persons questions Roukaya. People sometimes speak before thinking and their questions come across as rude and insensitive. Please try not to let it upset you. I suffer from anxiety and have found that relaxation exercises are really helpful.
Sometimes (maybe more so with the current health crisis) people are just plain racist and need to be told so in no uncertain terms - whatever their age.
Hi Roukaya. I am 48 and unmarried and, to be honest, I think we're in a good place - no responsibilities, no having to think, ' oh heck, I have to pluck my eyebrows', we can wear terrible grey ' should have been thrown away years ago' loose elastic underwear, wear jim jams all day...I'm not trying to make light of your feelings - I have chronic anxiety (Generalised Anxiety Disorder) and OCD and sink into bleak pits at time, especially when I encounter people like you did - social media drags me down faster than salt passing through an egg timer. People are cruel. In the situation you describe, maybe try to turn it around. A large percentage of elderly are lonely and unhappy - in a weird way, you may have been the only contact she will have all week. I am trying to accept that people can be cruel & given that the other person won't be fretting and getting upset about it, I should try to leave it outside the mental door.
Re Corona - stay safe, stay indoors as much as possible, avoid large crowds and in the supermarket etc in the queue, stand 1.5 m away & practice that sort of social distancing. It's transmitted by coughing, sneezing, water particles etc so hence the 1.5 m distance. Wash hands frequently and, after being out & about, do not touch face, eyes, mouth, ears etc until you have washed your hands or used alcohol based hand gel/spray.
The Corona virus will be with us for some months more so you have to protect yourself as best you can.
Everyone preaches about respect but despite this there are an awful lot of individuals out there who do not deliver on it. These people are ignorant and whilst it's easy for me to say this you have as much right to walk the planet as anyone else. Try to rise above it and remember, no one has the right to spoil a moment of your day!
I feel for you. Prejudice exists all over the world, not just UK. In the current climate my mind turns to a friend holidaying in Spain who has been abused by spanish locals and refused entry to local supermarket for being British "go back to your own country", etc. Dreadful.
I would advise against witty retorts, as FRreedman suggests, take strength from having dignity and say a prayer to the universe or God that the person overcomes their prejudice and learns to be kinder. Always be the better person. Flash your best smile and walk away.
Do you have friends/family to help you.
I am awaiting surgery, should've been today, but my surgeon clearly had more important things to do (coronavirus training) and I've been postponed.
Very sorry to hear of your experience with this racist.
The BBC have just put up this article on their website - I felt that it articulated very well the thoughts that I’ve had on the subject for years - mainly that there never was a ‘pure English’ (or French, or Italian, or Indian) race - we’re all mongrels - in Britain’s case a blend of Romans, Vikings, Angles, Saxons, Huns etc etc.
Say to the insulting person, “That’s racist and it says more about you than me. It’s your problem not mine.
You are as worthy as anyone else and please just treat as best you can people like that with a pinch of salt. I know it's easier said that done but you can do it. I was treated like I was thick for many years, I left school with nothing and did some studying after my children were born, I'm now 60 and my education no longer bothers me. Just because people are educated up to university level doesn't mean that they are any better. Therefore, just because you maybe have a different skin colour doesn't make you any less worthy of anyone else, in fact, I would say you are better than that woman.
Please be kind to yourself.
I know go to yoga every week and you learn to like yourself and give yourself time.
Hope your feeling better... I'm in bed with a hot water bottle due to a ibs flare up. I've been having a flare up every morning for the past 3 days, and I think its anxiety related as well as food related. More anxiety. However I did have fish and chips late last night which is a trigger.
Hope your well. Take care. Stay safe sending you hugs.
When I was first diagnosed with ibs I tried mebeverine and it didn't help,. In the past colpermin have helped. I had 1 capsule and I'm feeling better but I don't have any left. Need to pop out and get hold of some, but as I also suffer from hayfever, dont feel like getting out. Maybe I will do so later in the evening.
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