Ibs attack while with boyfriend Embarrassed ( any one feel the same)

[mon123123]

I was with my boyfriend last weekend he came to my house for dinner and I ate somthing I should not have my accident and ended up having a flair up attack in front of him I was in and out of the bathroom it was so embarrassing the painful cramps were the worst. Has any one ever had this happen to them ( any stories )

[jojokarak]

I have got too many to mention, all I can say is if he the right kind of person he will be understanding and not make a big deal of it.... I been married six years to my wonderful husband and he has been woken up on many occasions with me shouting I need a hot water bottle x

And he brings me my tablets without even me asking now he seems to pick up on the symptoms

Just talk to him as well talking about everything Is the key to not being embarrassed

[Tedbaker]

Yes loads of times over the years, it’s best just to be honest with them about your symptoms and feelings as it makes it all worse trying to avoid it/disguise the issues

[ShaunieIBSLan]

I'm 41 and suffered ibsd since I was 14. Most of my partner's haven't understood until my current partner of 12 years

Some may not see the seriousness of IBS and it's symptoms but don't feel embarrassed about it

[torcol]

I’m sure he’s not even thinking about it now. We punish ourselves and worry far more than anyone else. Probably didn’t cross his mind besides feeling bad for your pain. Have you talked to him about it? I would just be like “I have IBS”, it’s a condition just like any other medical condition so don’t be embarrassed, anxious or try to hide it! Just tell him this is what I have, this is what happens and sorry if it’s an occasional inconvenience but there ya go!

[mon123123 in reply to torcol]

He knows I have ibs and he is understanding I just don’t want to annoy him or kill the mood when I have an attack and we’re hanging out we bin dating a year

[Stuart24]

So many stories like this. I copy and paste the following to lots of people with IBS-D symptoms now, because after 27 years of suffering this is now what is working for me, and for the first time I feel that I am at least getting in control. It is based on some excellent publications, and also just observing how healthy people live. First, go to the doctors and get yourself checked for intestinal infections, and whatever other tests they want to do. If you are all clear then the first thing to sort out is your vitamins and the timing of your eating. An incident of food poisoning or infection can start you on a cycle that you need to make a concerted effort to break out of. IBS causes vitamin deficiencies which are very difficult to overcome in most people’s diets, especially because you are probably now eating selectively to manage your symptoms. Your vitamin levels affect the health of your guts, and the health of your guts affects your vitamin absorption, so it is a vicious circle that you have to break. Get some really good, expensive, multi-vitamins (ideally constituted for your age) and take them without fail every day before your breakfast. Do not get the ones with calcium and magnesium initially as certainly in large doses these minerals can mess you up as they consume your stomach acid, and you should get enough of these from your diet. If you are on low FODMAPs, go for all lactose free dairy products to boost your calcium. At the same time, sort out your eating and fasting periods straight away. Your small intestine should be practically sterile, and your stomach acid along with bowel cleaning during fasting will usually do this. But, you need to fast for this to be effective, and by that I mean, absolutely NO eating in between meals, only water, or tea with saccharin. Imagine that you never washed your dinner plates and just kept putting food on them all the time! You need to give your guts plenty of time free of food for cleaning. Eat a good breakfast at say 7am or what suits you and then a good lunch at 12 o'clock - absolutely no food in between. After lunch, no food again for at least 5 hours, and eat well again for your evening meal because it has got to get you through the night. After that, no supper or late night snacks, no food or milk at all until breakfast the next day. In general, do not eat fried or roasted starches, i.e. crisps, chips, roast veg or fried rice. Fried and roasted starches, the high temperature produced lovely crispy bits, are complex polymers that are very bad for you and are very difficult to digest, they feed the bacteria and make you ill. Starches should be boiled, and this is enough. You will feel hunger in the fasting periods, but do not respond to it - only with water and drinks - not fizzy drinks or milk. Importantly, when you are feeling better, do not resort to your old ways, you are still recovering. Start doing some exercise if you don’t already, this will also help with your gut motility. Equally, only eat red meats at lunch time as they take the longest time to digest. Your intestines take time to fully recover, it takes a few weeks at least, and you need to persevere. You then need to maintain a healthy and consistent way of eating and always keep the vitamins topped up to prevent you from relapsing. There is a lot of support for L-glutamine to help with nutrition specifically for your intestinal lining, this means buying some bodybuilder powder and having a couple of tea-spoons of this a day, one before breakfast and one just before you go to bed, and you can have this in a light cordial drink. As the health of your small intestine improves, your absorption of food improves which leaves less fermentable food for bacteria in your large intestine, which then should also improve. A lot of this was taken from this GENIUS paper below, but it does fit exactly with what I have experienced, and for the first time I really feel in control and on the mend. Good luck.

Treatment and Management of SIBO — Taking a Dietary Approach Can Control Intestinal Fermentation and Inflammation

By Aglaée Jacob, MS, RD

Today’s Dietitian

December 2012, Vol. 14 No. 12 P. 16