I really really think ibs and sex is very overlooked. No connections are being made between pain during and after sex during ibs flare ups.
I am just writing this post as I hope that it could possibly make even one person feel better.
I had only just been referred to a specialist to see about my trouble with my stomach when I had to go back to my GP as I struggled with alot of pain after sex.
This was pain that would make any period pain or back pain I've ever had seem like a breeze. I would always feel pain comming on 9/10 times during sex.
I would normally have to stop and run to the bathroom as I would flare up in a hot / cold sweat with the feeling of sickness you get when you don't eat. God it was so so painful.
However not thinking this was related to my stomach issues I followed my GPS advice and went to the GUM clinic. As this is similar symptoms of STIs. I had been with my partner several years and we had both been faithful, I knew it wouldn't be that. However I understood they would have to test every sti to rule this out. I had explained I suffered with ibs and took tablets. However the correlation with bowel trouble and painful sex is really really overlooked.
They diagnosed me with Pelvic inflammatory disease. This is basically what they will always diagnose you with if they cannot find anything wrong with you. This means 6 months of strong anti biotics, ones that make you sensitive to sunlight, burn far easily and made me throw up most of time when taking them. Imagine what they do to your insides.
I completed my course of antibiotics 6 months later, still in the same boat. By this point I had basically given up on sex as it was far to painful and embarrassing to carry on. They then tell me to take another 6 months worth of tablets!!
Now a year on, with a new partner I noticed I was getting the same symptoms... So it's definitely me that's the problem.
After realising my ibs symptoms calm down when I don't eat any sort of bread, pasta mainly any bulky wheat products, I have NO pain after sex. Unless I eat alot of wheat that week. This connection between ibs and trigger foods and sex needs to be looked at.
I am just writing this as I hope this reassures some women that having ibs and pain during flare ups is normal! Stressing about it even makes it alot worse!!!