Thanks for responding! - MBC and work/life changes

[CalGal56]

Thank you! All of you are amazing, and my takeaways add to my positive outlook no matter the outcome!

What stood out for me the most was it is a personal choice of how, when, and if we decide to make work/life changes after diagnosis.

I loved reading about the concept of "different types of stress" (@pbsoup) and how they can impact us in different ways (I will be researching that more).

I loved how so many wrote about "keeping busy" not necessarily as a distraction but to remain part of the scene, life that is, and all the wonderful experiences that go with it - we don't know what lies ahead, but why disrupt the journey we have been on so far (don't let it define you 😊), my takeaway, this is one more life experience, not an easy one, damn it is TOUGH (that's an understatement!). For the first time, I truly love the expression, "This is my new normal..."

I loved everyone's talk about life and hobbies. Whether swimming, dancing (I Tango and Salsa), gardening, traveling, writing, or horses (I am a horsewoman, Morgans, and Morabs). It is important to keep loving what you love and moving!

Most of all, I love everyone's SPIRIT. No matter where our heads are, what emotions have gripped us today - we have awesome SPIRIT.

And, @Beryl71, thank you for sharing that you have met someone, your new partner. I am single and was just about ready to get back out there when the diagnosis came in; it stopped me in my tracks. My daughter (30 and pregnant) and her husband are ready to write my profile and are encouraging me to date 😉. My daughter says, well, Mom, at least you'll know you have met one hell of a man, a keeper...and if any of them "ghost" you, good riddance! 😂

Thanks, everyone! Have a wonderful week! Live-it-up!

[Aprilfoolz1]

I love your spirit , too ! This dx definitely stops us in our tracks but we do move forward to find our own personal balance. So happy that your daughter is expecting and a good support for you!

I think in this journey we realize just how many of us there are - advanced cancer patients - out in the world.

I'm drinking my morning coffee from my "good china "'and planning trips now. Those of us with stage IV need to enjoy life as much as possible while working with and around treatments.

[jersey-jazz in reply to Aprilfoolz1]

Dear Aprilfoolz1---I too drink my coffee from porcelain mugs and my tea from bone china tea cups and bone china tea pots. No one in my family loves china and crystal as I do. So, I might as well use it all and if it breaks, that is one less piece my family will have to deal with. Interestingly, just this morning, five of us were out having a birthday breakfast. Three of the other four are fast friends of mine and have helped me so much. They were explaining to the other woman how they come to my house and get served home made cookies and drink tea out of fancy tea cups poured from a fancy tea pot. Until this morning, I never realized how much they all enjoyed it and appreciated it. It madam feel so good. They also complained about my part time boy friend getting more than he gives. I tried to explain to them without going into the details. They are none the wiser. Here, in this place, we are all so wonderful with each other because we are all educated about each other without having to explain it all. I like your expression, "Personal balance". We do all work to find it.

Tomorrow, when I am drinking my coffee, I will think of you.

[Pbsoup]

So pleased it was helpful. The responses you received represent the best of this forum. I belong to several, but this is my favorite. Everyone is wise, openhearted and generous. Plus I love how we are from all over the world, and treated by a range of professionals.

[OneLump22]

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[AvidBooklover]

Just remember...everyone has something...this is our something. The more you talk to people even if you do not reveal your issues, the more you see this. And our something has lots of options to keep us living life.

[13plus]

I love this! I obviously missed your original post but yes to all this here, spot on! I teach fitness, it keeps me moving, literally, but most importantly I love it! And though none of my current clients have cancer, they still have issues with their bodies, and some are painful. How can I not continue to help them while I’m still able to? It’s what keeps me going!

Good luck with the dating game! Why not?!