Wow! What are you like! That is such a great question to ask men as a filter. There are so many men unworthy of any woman. After all, we are the Queens and it is up to us to decide upon their worthiness.
Personally, I bandy my MBS around as a poster girl for having a great life while "suffering" this fatal disease. This stems from the following experience of mine. When I heard that my good friend had moved up from stage 3 to stage 4, I wondered to another friend if she could possibly get out of her bed to come to a party. Yes, she could and, yes, she came to my party and, yes, as usual, she was the life of the party. Nothing had changed except for her life expectancy. She has since passed and is so greatly missed. I try to carry on her legecy.
There is huge ignorance and selfishness around. None of know when we're going to die or how. It's just certain we all will! My man was not put off, I was quite up front about it. Now three years later,we are buying a lovely home together. Good luck! Xx
The first man has given me a laugh I must say ππ€£π. Iβm riddled with back pain today so youβve really cheered me up. What a douchbag (or for any fellow Irish folks on here, what a dope!). That man must live a very closeted and lonely life, and is more to be pitied than laughed at I suppose (as I wipe the tears from my eyes π€ͺ).
Thanks for cheering me up this morning! Just what I needed! I was down last two days after researching deeper on my new dx PIK3CA.
When my partner and I first met, we were very attracted to each other and we knew we are made for each other. So on our first FT, I told him right away of my MBC, and it is up to him to leave me or support me all the way. He immediately said he would support me all the way. Two years forward, he is STILL an amazing guy with full support!
I donβt think it would help the first man anyway, but I think people in general need to educated about MBC. I work in the health care field and had trouble recently when asking for a different schedule. They were convinced that I βonlyβ had a primary breast cancer diagnosis because I had been and still wanted to keep working. They thought that anyone with MBC would go on disability because, you know, you are going to die very soon, be horribly sick all the time, calling off,etc. I ended up switching to work in a cancer center, at least they get it. I also believe in karma, which may eventually educate the first guy.
I have lobular breast cancer and have also developed neuropathy in my feet & hands. To top it off I fell and fractured my right knee and my left foot. My boyfriend of four years is still with me. He said he will be with me till the end. When I met him, my cancer was in total remission for 13 years, but it came back. I feel now that he came into my life for a reason because he was different than any other man that I have been with. He has been a godsend.
You should have told these guys that they are likely going to die first before any wife or girlfriend with cancer. They likely have more dangerous habits than most women and will likely kick the bucket long before these wonderful strong women. Stay happy. Hugs Marlene
Every day I'm reminded & believe that none of us are promised tomorrow. I just had a friend, much younger than me, get sick and within 2 weeks she passed. The doctors at the hospital don't have an answer. Just enjoy every day.
Sister/Warrior: Wow I am amazed at how uneducated that one man was.π€₯ He better hope he never gets cancer. Would it be okay for his wife to leave him if he was diagnose with cancer???π³. I am glad you didn't tell him your medical history, only then can you see how many people like him who still need to be educatedπ₯Ί. I hope/pray he will be enlightened with compassion, and love something he lacks at this point in his life journey.. A lot of people have misunderstood myths about cancer diagnosis, and prognosis.π. Maybe at some point before we were diagnosed we were ignorant in believing some untrue myths also. I guess it is up to us to educate people, even if we don't tell of our own personal diagnosis journey. Stay strong all my Sister's/Warrior's/Thriver's, and Over-comer's Amenππ.
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