Imagine being 75 and you’re sat thinking about your life and how you never went swimming in the sea on a warm night because your thighs jiggled. Imagine realizing you never laughed until you couldn’t breathe because your teeth weren’t straight or white enough. You never embraced the sun on the beach because of the stretch marks on your stomach and your hips. You never allowed yourself to let go and have fun because the pressure to look perfect consumed you.Imagine being 75 and realizing you’ve hidden yourself away for the fear of being real. Imagine realizing all the years you wasted hating yourself, but now it’s too late to go swim in the sea late at night. Now it hurts to laugh for more than a few seconds and you’re too weak to travel to the beach. Imagine realizing all this time you were perfect the way you were, but now it’s too late to do anything about it. Don’t let that happen. Live now, as you are. You deserve to realize you’re enough and always have been, before you’re 75.Unknown author
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I love this. Really makes you think doesn’t it and realise that you only need to be you. Thanks for the post.Take care
Debra😍xxx
Sure does Debbie. You take care to. Xx
My living with metastatic breast cancer has brought me to a place of stunning gratitude for all of life and its source. It also finds me reconciling, healing and accepting many regrets. I know that most of the time, maybe every time l was doing the best l knew at the time.
Wow, very powerful words and something to think about. Thank you for sharing this.
Wonderful reminder. I’m certain for most of us the diagnosis of MBC instantly slapped priority “spoil” into gear. I never treated myself to massages, salon sessions, lavish trips or vacations etc. I was always too frugal and preferred to spend my money on others. And my kids. I was raised to save save. Nowadays I use my fancy China whenever I feel like it, I bought very expensive makeup, just paid for an expensive hair do and went reshooting because I’ve lost a ton of weight and NEVER in my life was told I’m 10 pounds underweight. Lol.Indeed this circumstance/ diagnosis was a blessing in embracing who we are mentally, physically and spiritually. I do thank the good Lord for that ! And for maxi pads when I cough, laugh and Pee just a little. 😂😂😂as
Well done you. This gives us all inspiration. We didn’t ask to be given MBC, we can’t fight it so have to live with it and follow our dreams and make some of them reality if we can. A little pee is nothing to worry about. We can still make the best of life. I’m so pleased you do this xx
Love love this!
Thank you! M.
We could be best friends
I did not get married nor do I have children but as I tell some of my friends, I do not want to die with more than $20 in the bank. Treat yourself. Nobody is going to treat you any better than yourself. Perfect that finally you are putting yourself first.
You’re so sweet - thank you ! Consider friends a given . 🥰
Couldn’t agree moreMy son wouldn’t want any money neither would my stepdaughter. They are both set up financially. It’s great you spoil yourself. Go for it. Xx
Beautiful sentiment - thank you for sharing- a little reminder is always good. I am sure you all are, as I am, a reminder to a lot of family and friends that NOW is the time for living- don't wait for any reason. No one knows what tomorrow is going to bring. Whenever I start to feel a little down, I remind myself to be thankful for the day, everything I have and enjoy it! And spoiling myself comes easy these days - Blessings to all!
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hi Flowerfairies.
I too love this! something I think about a lot these days. me and my bff.....since 12 years...have discussed this same topic a lot over the past couple years. and recently....as in a couple weeks ago....I had a conversation with my adult daughter regarding the same....as I feel so strongly about the profound message. she is beautiful inside and out and yet, she is feeling diminished since the birth of her 2nd baby....two beautiful, healthy babies within two years and 9 months. of course our bodies are not the same. and yet she is beautiful...mind, body and spirit. she does not truly get it. perhaps her age. but I asked her to please appreciate what she has now. and that many years from now she will look back and realize she was always 'enough'. we waste time and energy wanting to lose that 10 lbs. or thinking our butt is too big. as we age, and perhaps add medical issues to that....we wish we had appreciated ourselves more throughout our lives. rings true for me.
thanks for sharing this. such a powerful message.
carole XO
I think most new mothers go through that especially with the second child. My friend had post-partum depression. It is probably stressful for now adapting to having two young children but in a few years, they will be walking and chattering and she will think of the time when they were younger or took naps and didn't run around. Hopefully, this too will pass for her.
thanks Kearnan. yes, she did suffer from postpartum. she is much better now. she is seeing a therapist and was put on anti-depressant and actually worked for her. she had them during covid which didn't help her psyche.carole💛
Just realized you look too young to be a grandma for sure
Live for today, tomorrow may not come. It’s great you chat with your daughter. We have to live comfortably and treat ourselves. I hope your daughter overcomes her problems real soon. Can’t be easy for her. She sounds as if she cares so much about everyone. All the very best to you and your daughter.
Take care.
thank you Flowerfairies....so sweet of you. my daughter is doing much better and I am thankful that we have a close connection. I chose to write about my daughter. I could easily have written about my self. all those years that I bashed myself for not being 'perfect' and yet I was able bodied and attractive....but not enough in my own mind. all that energy I wasted on feeling bad about myself when there was no need.
now I truly am disfigured and handicapped....I am 64 and when I try to stand and take a few steps....I look like I am 90. my spine is bent and twisted and I am hunched over. I cannot stand long enough to brush my teeth. I cannot shower on my own. I can no longer cook or clean or do laundry. the pain is unbearable at times....despite high doses of pain meds. my clothes no longer fit normally. I am a recluse, but not by choice. it did not help that my husband divorced me back in 2014 when I was bald and going through chemo for my primary BC....he left me for a beautiful woman with long beautiful hair. I did not see that coming. I often wonder if I am being punished for wasting precious, valuable time back when I was able bodied and fit. so this really hit home to me. now I would love to go in the ocean and would not care what I look like but it is too late for me. I am now too disabled to go to the beach. why did I not appreciate life more when I still could. I don't want others to make the same mistake.
so that is why I chose to write about my daughter. I love her so much and don't want her to make the same mistakes as me. my hope for her is that she recognizes how truly wonderful she is....right now in the present. and I am here to remind her.
so thank you again for this poignant reminder! appreciate what you have while you still can and leave this earth with as few regrets as possible.
sending hugs.....
carole xo
Thank you Flowerfairies2. What a good reminder. Hugs M.
Thank you, for posting this. I’ve thought about several of these things and realized that nobody really cares what I look like in a swim suit!
I’ve had three beach vacations since MBC diagnosis and had a blast! Not worried about giggles or beach clothing.
Glad you go for it. Why not. Well,done xx
Sister you are sooo right. I am grateful for all the things I did, or can still do. GOD bless you.
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