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Sad news ...

My lovely mum passed away during the early hours of this morning, very peacefully with pneumonia. Mum was 91 and has enjoyed a good life. Mum also suffered from dementia, I never told her about my MBC.

She was the best mum I could ever wish for.... “sleep tight darling mum 💔”

Jo xx

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Prayers and a hug for you, Sunnydrinking. At 91 and passing peacefully after a good life -- it is a blessing.

Jo my sincere condolences on the lost of your mom. Living to that ripe old age and dying peacefully in her sleep is such a blessing and I hope it gives you comfort. Take care of yourself and I have no doubt that you will still feel your mom's presence even though she is gone and remember her fondly as you continue your journey. Sending you a virtual hug in this time of sadness.


So very sorry for your loss. I also lost my Mom last week she was 98 and thankfully went in her sleep also. Hugs and prayers are being sent to you.

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Zebra2018 in reply to Betbop

I am sorry for your lost. Please accept my condolences, peace and love for you


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Justme153 in reply to Betbop

So sorry for your loss also Betbop I'm glad your mother passed away peacefully . It makes there passing easier . Take care and keep your chin up.

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SeattleMom in reply to Betbop

So sorry for your loss, Bet. Lost my mom in August at age 96. You are in my heart and prayers! ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

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mariootsi in reply to SeattleMom

Sorry for your loss.



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mariootsi in reply to Betbop

My condolences.A blessing at 98 passing in your sleep. I pray that for all of us!

Love and hugs,


My condolences to you and your family. It the best way to go! I wish it for myself. Big hug and love ❤️

So sorry


Barb xx

I’m so sorry for your loss. Allow yourself to grieve her loss and feel grateful for the easy way she departed this life. She will always be with you. ❤️ Elaine

So sorry on your loss. She will definitely be with you through your journey. Keep your mind open and watch for her signs she will let you know she is there. Take care of your self and enjoy life your mom would want you to.

I’m so sorry for your lost!


I am so sorry. A Mom is hard to lose at any age. Prayers and Hugs. Blessings, Hannah

Dearest Jo,

So very sorry for your loss! 😥 I lost my mom in August on her 96th birthday. Like you, I never shared my diagnosis with her. We were so close and she would have been devastated. You are in my heart and prayers. It takes a long time to adjust to the absence. I still have episodes of mourning. God bless you and bring peace to your days! ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

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mariootsi in reply to SeattleMom

So sorry for your loss. It's so hard!

Very sorry to hear condolences.💕

Very sorry for your loss....

Dear Sunnydrinking ... I send you warm gentle hugs ... I’m so sorry ..It is such heartache to lose a parent...

I’m so sorry. My deepest condolences.

So sorry to hear about your loss Jo and I understand why you chose not to reveal your situation to her. Please take comfort that she had a peaceful passing and reinforce the fact that life is worth celebrating whatever cards we are dealt. I have MBC too and was out with my sister and mum the day before last. We were having such fun, laughing until my ribs ached. I felt a fleeting wave of sadness hat my family will lose me. I feel privileged that I can make special memories and choose who I want to spend my precious life with and remember that despite my diagnoses I have time to do that. Many people don't get that opportunity because some event takes them in an instant. You sound a wonderfully brave soul and it must have been heartbreaking not to be able to talk your mum. You made the right decision, due to her confused state. I know it won't feel like it now, but my sister and I found great peace working as a team when my dad passed in St Richard's hospice, making the funeral arrangements together, sharing and laughing the good memories whilst digging out all the photos. All the best in your journey. Your mum had a great life, so celebrate her life and your own moving forward..

Thank you so much to you and everyone for their kind words. Mum left 4 children and 2 grandchildren - we are all getting involved and sharing all the arranging. Yes, old pics etc are making us smile ....

On reflection mum’s passing is a blessing, it was time for her to go and it was very peaceful.

Mum will always have a place in my heart and I will make sure her memory plays a part in me living the best life possible with MBC.

Thanks everyone

Jo xx

So sorry for your loss I know how you feel it’s like a part of you has gone . Your in my prayers and thoughts .

So sorry. Sending love x

Morning Jo,

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news about your mum. I can understand your decision not to tell your mum about your metastatic diagnosis.

Take care,

Sophie ❤

Big hugs xxx

Very sad times Jo. Fall in to the sadness and hold her tight to you. We are lucky to have people we love in our lives. And grief will not be linear. It will creep up at inopportune moments. I feel for you.


Sorry for your loss, may you find comfort in all your fond and loving memories of your dear mum.

Thinking of you and your family x

So sorry for your loss. Glad you have siblings to lean on and wonderful memories to share. Take care.

June S.

So sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. Xo

Sending prayer! 🙏🏻💕

Prayers 🙏❤️ I am sorry

So sorry to hear this, sending you a hug

Sorry for your loss.

Sending prayers of comfort to you.

May all your memories of your lovely mom be a blessing to you❤️


I pray that you come to peace with your mom's passing. Sorry for your loss.


Sending hugs, prayers, & deep sympathy for your painful loss 🤗🥰🙏😢 Hold on on to all the good memories. It’s never easy even when you’re expecting it. ❤️🙏❤️

My thoughts and prayers are with you and family during this difficult time. God bless.

So sorry for your loss Jo. I am in awe of her 91 years. Sending a hug to you

Such sad news. Please allow yourself to grieve. There is no wrong or right way. You said it all your lovely mom. Surround yourself with memories and look for cardinals.

I was saddened by your news. You are in my thoughts.

So sorry for your loss but it’s a blessing she died so peacefully. All best with your treatment. Take care! Red

You are very blessed to have had such a lovely mother. Take comfort for the fact that she no longer has dementia. She will always be with you .

I’m sorry to hear that. God give you strengths in that sad moments.

Jo, I pray you find peace with passing of your mum. It is so hard to deal with this, but you say she was a good mum who lived a long life.

You are very strong to not tell her about your mbc.

Blessings and condolences to you and your family.

Love and hugs,


So very sorry for your loss. :-( xo

I’m so very sorry. Prayers for you and your family.


Losing a mother is always heartbreaking, even if they had a full life and died peacefully. I am so sorry and hope that the memories of what sound like many happy years together comfort you now. I am amazed by the selflessness of many of you ladies who kept a devastating diagnosis from your mothers. Much peace.

My condolences.

Dear Jo

So very sorry to hear of the very sad loss you have recently experienced There is nothing that can replace a loving Mum My thoughts and love. are with you I sincerely hope that you have plenty of support for yourself as well as your bereavment during this time Anne

My thoughts are with you.

How lucky to have a wonderful Mum for all those years.

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