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This has nothing to do directly with mbc. My husband always thinks a good deed will give you blessings. He was off to the gym today and drove by a 60 year old women barely walking on her walker. He turned around went back and asked where are you going? 7 miles to a homeless shelter on other side of town. He said she was very overweight and he knew no one would pick her up, as he said she could barely fit in the seat. It would have taken her all day the way she was walking. She has been homeless for 2 years. He gave her money and he said it took all he had not to cry. He has always felt that for helping others you will get helped back. I don’t know if that’s always true but because he did that she is at the Shelter and didn’t have to walk all day. I’m sharing this because I was feeling so down. I guess that quote is true just look around you will always find someone worse off than you. I just wanted to share that and hope all you Beautiful ladies are off to a wonderful weekend! God Bless!

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Pattie1951

Thanks for sharing that sweet story

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Epinto

Your husband sounds like a caring and compassionate person. Yes when we look at other peoples problems u will take back your own sometimes! We all deal with something in life, no one gets away Scott free. Enjoy the positives and just keep going!

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nstonerocks

Thank you for sharing this story. Your husband sounds like a great person. It does help sometimes to realize that others also suffer. It’s all relative. I have never been a very upbeat person, but Cancer has forced me to change the way I look at things and how I react. I am starting a gratitude diary. Every day jot down whatever it is that I am grateful for that day. Could be a person, a place, a cup of coffee. It is consoling that despite my diagnosis I am truly blessed in so many ways. Easy to get lost in the darkness. How amazing to have such an open hearted husband! Even tho I don’t count on acts of kindness to bring me good karma, they surely bring a peace and contentment knowing you’ve brought a light into someone else’s life. I hope you feel better soon.

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Clair19 in reply to nstonerocks

He has MS, I give him rebif injections 2 times a week. He works out and you can’t tell he’s had it for 25 years 55 now. His first wife left him when he started to have problems with walking, speech and eyes. He became very bitter but that was a long time. He is a good guy friend and husband. I was not sure how he would deal with me and IV Chemo. He did well. The Ibrance is the one problem now with my blood work. Thanks for responding have a great Sunday...

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nstonerocks in reply to Clair19

Clair. I’m almost speechless with the story of you and your loved ones. And I am not known for being speechless! Must be a lot of love and faith there. You will bounce back from the Ibrance. I did. Or your doc will figure out a schedule that works for you. Bless you both. 🙏

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Clair19 in reply to nstonerocks

Thanks, I lost my whole family I had a Stepdad and Mom I lost within a 5 year period. When my brother died in 2003 I sorta lost it. I have a cousin who is a Preist in Virginia, and my Moms sister and son in Pa. Never had a big family. So I say my Ohio family is my family. Of course my Son who lives here. But yeah it was rough in the 90’s. ❤️

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lweaver

Amazing story! You have a compassionate hubby. Thanks for sharing. I wish you well in your health journey.

Blessings,

LeAnn

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Clair19 in reply to lweaver

Thanks so much. He use to be a little harder on people. However since diagnosed with cancer he has totally changed. I mean he was never a bad person just always felt people should help there self. Seeing me suffer and having to lean on him it has made him a little more compassionate. That’s a good thing. Being a Nurse I always have been to compassionate as my boss would tell me I spent to much time with my pts. Now it sometimes feels as we are cattle moving down the ramp. Thanks for responding, have a great weekend.

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Newtkim1

Thanks for sharing! We all need positive, happy news. Your husband sounds wonderful!

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Clair19 in reply to Newtkim1

This was a great thing he did. We took care of another homeless young man. I say take care we would take him food and buy him clothes. This went on for 6 months then he just disappeared and we don’t know what happened. I know you can always find someone worse off or suffering more then you. Thanks

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Rhwright12

Thanks for sharing! May God bless both of you for this kind act!

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PJBinMI

Thanks for sharing this! It certainly reflects well on your husband that he couldn't just drive by without stopping to help when he saw this woman. And hard and challenging as this blasted cancer is, many of us have access to the resources we need on a day to day basis! When I took my dog out this morning for his first walk of the day, we turned it into a go to the end of our long country-style drive way to get the Sunday paper, and it was so beautiful to see spring popping up all over the place. Peony bushes up and recognizable though not blooming yet, tulips in bloom, flowering cherry in full bloom. I hope the people at the homeless shelter are able to enjoy spring time! And that all of us can, too. And that we continue to enjoy what we have always enjoyed and that we recognize need in others, as your husband did. Give him a hug for me!

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Clair19 in reply to PJBinMI

I will give him a well deserved hug. It’s what we take so much for granted. A warm bed, food, being able to get in a car and go. I have been so fixated on my problems I forgot people can be suffering in a total different way. I’m glad you’re enjoying your beautiful flowers and spring. I always had yard work done for me, we downsized and I do it myself. I love blowing my little sitting area. I live in Atlanta so starting to get just crazy hot. However my Lilly’s stopped blooming? I would get 30 on one, but know nothing. Should I just take them up? You sound like you know more about this stuff. Thanks

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PJBinMI in reply to Clair19

I know a little bit about gardening but not about your lilies. I went wild planting bulbs a few years ago! We live out in the country, with ten acres, mostly wooded, and now there are little clusters of daffodils that come up here and there out in the woods. I get a bang out of that. We don't have many places without alot of shade, but those places are now planted with perennials plus spots I leave for putting in tomatoes every spring. We're in SW MIchigan, close to the border with Indiana. You beat us in the heat department, by far! I've only been to Atlanta once, for a BC conference a few years ago. I went early and a friend from Virginia drove there and we stayed in Buckhead for a few days before the conference. I don't remember the name of the area where the conference was. I was impressed by your public transportation. I wish I'd had more time to explore and see more of the city.

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Clair19 in reply to PJBinMI

I live South of Atlanta about 30 min from airport. The driving is crazy better to take public transportation. We rarely go into Atlanta unless going to airport. Your home sounds wonderful. We downsized because of me and medical bills. So we just have a very small condo 4 b/r 3 bath was just a bit much, lived there 25 years. Now 2 b/r and small yard. Thanks for responding! Have a great week.

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Andreaer

I think what your husband did was an amazing deed which changed a troublesome day into a wonderful for that woman! That verse in the Bible that says “when you did these things to my little ones you did it unto me” ,I believe it’s that way, we are called to do good deeds and the Holy Spirit is who guides us to do so. How different and amazing the world would look like with more people doing like your husband!

God bless you richly, and keep on doing the good work!

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Clair19 in reply to Andreaer

Thanks Andreaer, very kind of you. Paul was diagnosed with MS 25 years ago. I have to give him Rebif injections twice weekly. His first wife left him when he started dragging a leg and slurred speech. He was very bitter but now at 55 you would never know. He works out and try’s to eat right. We both don’t eat fried food. We grill or bake. Our weakness ice cream 🍦. But I met him on match.com 8 years ago, we married after 6 months. He’s knew to cancer where both my parents had it. He’s been my rock. Thanks again.🙏

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spouseM

That is such a beautiful story. Your husband has a big heart. Thank him for me. I am guessing that, even if he did not think he would get blessing from this he would do it....and that makes it that much sweeter!!

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Gmaoftriplets

Beautiful story, very uplifting..

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Clair19

Thanks 🙏

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SeattleMom

What a beautiful message, Leslie! Your husband is a saint--just like you!! And I truly believe you get so much more from giving than receiving. Both of you are prime examples of selfless human beings who deserve many blessings!! XXOO Linda

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Clair19 in reply to SeattleMom

Thanks Linda that is so sweet of you. We both are far from perfect but always try and help. She was older and he just knew where she was walking was not safe. We both have horrible health problems . He has MS and me mbc, but we have family and a roof over our heads. Paul stays in good condition and he feels blessed. We lost our home due to the medical bills and he lost his job. We don’t dwell on that, as it never helps. We have a small Condo and less work, and less expensive. We feel we are doing what they can’t do take for granted like having cars. We know a young man and his mother who walk over an hr just to grocery shop, we always ask if they need to go. I know our health is not great but our hearts are. Thanks again...

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SeattleMom

Your hearts are much more than "great;" they are BEAUTIFUL! XXOO

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