My Life

[dmike19]

Sometimes but not all the time I always get these days where I just feel really down about life and how I don't like the path I'm going down and i feel like if I take one wrong step I'm dead (not literal). Like I feel like I'm not gonna be anything in life and I always get really scared and stressed out about it, then that sends me into depression usually. And I also have a really confidence problem. Ever since I was a kid I used to be Really over weight. Well over the years I dropped the weight and got skinny a little bit but ever since I was fat I always lacked self confidence. And I'm currently start to go bald in front of my head like my hair is starting to thin and I'm only 20. It's so embarrassing and I hate it, like why does it have to be me & it breaks me down everytime I look at it. It really affects my confidence and everything else. I just don't like myself at all right now.

[Hidden]

Hey there dmike19, hope you are feeling better. got to find the positive side of things, you are young and a whole life ahead of you. It's hard being young sometimes. What do you do, do you go to school? sports? work out? Theater?

If you can substitute those thoughts with a more positive ones? have talked to a porfesional about it?

[dmike19 in reply to Hidden]

Yea I do college football, school and I workout. I try to fill my time up but it just seems like no matter what I do those thoughts always come to mind. I think I’m more scared of going bald because I feel like I’m going to be “ugly” and I’ll be alone for the rest of my life.

[Hidden]

dmike19, understand your feelings are sometimes hard to control but please don’t stress about hair, I spent many a years stressing when I started losing mine at 19 🤦‍♂️ I spent a longtime trying different things & styles 🙄 embrace it buddy, crop your hair shorter I have a grade 1 n love it, took me a while but I’ve loved since I was 21 😉 keep smiling bro

[jimreilly]

Maybe you haven't found this out yet, but some people find bald men sexier than men with hair, especially if you carry it off well (trimming what hair you do have really short can complement the baldness and show that you don't give a fuck, which can be a turn -on, too). Almost all of us spend a lot of energy (often too much) worrying about what we look like, especially when we're young (which I am no longer); as we find our way in life it usually doesn't matter so much. Here's hoping you can be a little easy on yourself--and good luck with school & football!

[Vitruviusman]

I feel the same way. Some times it is worse than others. I do no know the solution.

[Steadybutlonely]

Hey man, sorry you are down and about your hair loss - that you feel bad about it. I agree with the person above, lots of people find bald men sexy, its all about clipping it as close as you can. Vin Diesel, The Rock... Yeah they are celebrities and buff but they are also sexy. I am positive you will find someone who won't care about thinning hair. Probably doesn't make you feel better and I don't mean to detract from how you feel, because I have lots of insecurities and I get it.