Anxiety

[Runell1024]

My wife has/is developing worsened anxiety and for the longest I’ve put off talking about it because she doesn’t want me discussing her problem with others...but it’s tearing me up inside because I feel like I’m trying my hardest to help and now that is becoming feelings of resentment and anger...I just need someone to talk with about it all...

[johnsmith]

With anxiety talking is often a waste of time. In talking concentration is on anxiety triggers rather than modifying the underlying body state problem. Feelings are felt in the body. Change the body and you change the feeling.

You can spend hours trying to track down an event cause in the past. When in reality it is a multitude of events, effects and development of poor body posture which interferes with good breathing.

Gentle martial art practice has been dealing with anxiety issues for hundreds of years. Yoga has been alleviating various anxiety states for thousands of years. The religious traditions and their practices have been helping anxiety for thousands of years.

Find a movement class yoga, t'ai chi, karate, pilates whatever and take your wife to it.

Meditation and mindfulness practice will help your wife become aware of how the anxiety develops and enable her to become aware of strategies to modify how she causes the body state of anxiety and hence change it. This takes time because the skill of internal mental observational skill takes months to comprehend and develop while doing.

Hope this helps

[jaglad]

In reality it is your wife who needs to talk to someone and find the reason and cure for her anxiety. Is there anyone she can confide in, maybe a relative or good friend. the conversation does not have to be about your wife and her feelings, but talking is a start. For you maybe talk to your doc'. He maybe able to point you in the right direction.

Good luck

[Runell1024 in reply to jaglad]

Been together for 10 years and she’s finally getting help. If I left it to her she wouldn’t schedule an appointment because thinking about speaking about her anxiety gives her anxiety. Literally anything can become a trigger for her and it’s really bad because it’s kind of a catch 22 for her because her anxiety causes problems and those problems file anxiety.

[Runell1024]

So she just gets stuck. Can’t speak. Can’t think. Can’t move; paralyzed by fear

[jaglad]

Really hope something gets sorted for both your sakes. Making the first move is often the hardest part.

[Runell1024 in reply to jaglad]

Thank you. Been making moves for her, it’s just getting her to follow through that’s the real challenge.

[kel55]

hi, not a nice place to be is it. my wife has clinical depression but to get her to do something about it took a lot of guts on my part! l know its hard but you have to ignor what and how she says things to you, she dont mean it but she will hurt you mentally. ln the finish l said book and go to the doctors or im offand l said and im comming with you that was 4 years ago. she will never be free of it but at least ive managed to cope. its not all about her you will go through it as well