Holding self accountable.

[Meeasy]

I looked at porn this weekend. It's a boundary I want to avoid but I had a slip. Using this forum to hold myself accountable with anonymity. Thanks

[jaglad]

Not sure why you need to find yourself 'accountable'. Many, many people look at porn' for many reasons, both men and women. Providing you are sensible and it does not come to control you. What is the problem ? If you do not try to force it on others and of course it is legal pornography then you have no need to hold yourself 'accountable' for anything. There are some who say it exploits the people in those books or films but generally they are well paid and willing participants. Relax.

[Meeasy in reply to jaglad]

As I said in the post, it is a personal boundary I set for myself. For me it can be addictive behavior and often perpetuates itself for more behaviors. It also stirs up negative side effects and leaves me with a foggy head that I regret afterward. There is an objectification of women component also. It's not a judgment of others but an adolescent craving that I want to grow away from and being accountable helps. Thanks

[2getbetter in reply to Meeasy]

I understand, I’ve dealt with this myself and have gone for periods where I felt addicted to it and it’s not easy to get past it. Beating yourself up over it is only going to mess with your emotions and you need to know you did something you aren’t happy about, but your going to try harder to not let it keep happening.

[Wannabehard in reply to Meeasy]

Good luck. I understand compulsive and seemingly uncontrollable behaviors. They can take over our lives if not kept in check. I applaud you setting this as a personal boundary and support your efforts even from a distance.

[Hidden]

What is your problem ? Why do you hold yourself accountable ?

[Meeasy in reply to Hidden]

As I said in the post, it is a personal boundary I set for myself. For me it can be addictive behavior that often perpetuates itself into more behaviors. It also stirs up negative side effects and leaves me with a foggy head that I regret afterward. There is an objectification of women component also. It's not a judgment of others but an adolescent craving that I want to grow away from and being accountable helps. Thanks

[Hidden]

It is a subjective assessment

[Meeasy in reply to Hidden]

Subjective and personal. It's not a judgement of others

[Hidden]

Still it's natural to see porns, sometimes a biological need, sometimes a psychological need.

[Meeasy]

Eating is natural too but avioding "deep fried" foods is a healthier option in my personal opinion. I sttill have no judgement on other positions

[jaglad]

If you believe you have a problem it is good to face upto it and seek advice and help from others. The 'negative side effects' are maybe something you could talk about with your Doc or Counsellors, I am sure some can be contacted anonymously. I hope you can come to terms with any issues you have. Like your food analogy, Porn in itself is not a problem.

Good luck

[Dahveed323]

Meeasy, I am right there with you my friend. Pornography was something that I struggled with for years. I wish that I could turn back time and never have gotten addicted. Message me and we'll talk. I care about this, and I want to help you with your goals.

[Hidden]

Hi, i have struggled with a similar problem and know exactly how you feel, although i don't think that this forum could keep you accountable really.

Try something like having a daily chart which you can tick off at the end of each day to say you havent watched porn and set yourself targets.

Your right, i think porn is totally not right and no-one should be looking at it but its people's choices. Maybe you could put a post here once a month to say how you have been doing and so on.