My husband had been experiencing various problems for some years including limbs on his left side feeling strange, gradual problems with speech, falls, incontinence, slow mental processing and problems with swallowing. Despite many attempts we were unable to get an appointment with a neurologist and his GP just said it was old age. The pandemic did not help this. We finally got an appointment for an MRI and then with a Neurologist in March 2023 (approx 5-6 years after first onset of symptoms)
Just after the neurology appointment he suffered a stroke last year which affected his right side and caused his speech to further deteriorate. He spent 13 weeks in total hospital because he had been sent to the wrong hospital to begin with and it took 4 weeks to get him transferred to a hospital nearby. The first hospital disregarded what I told them and just treated the stroke, he was on a trial course of Madopar prescribed by his Neurologist and they continued this. It had a bad effect on him and he spent 3 weeks in virtually unconscious before I got them to speak to his Neurologist at the hospital near us, and she told them to reduce the dose. They attempted physio and gave up. After transfer to our local hospital He spent another 9 weeks before they eventually said he had lost all his core strength and there was nothing they could do and he should be discharged. They kept trying to get him to eat different levels of soft food unsuccessfully because his swallow is bad. He also hated the food and the result was that he lost over 4 stone. Once nurse told me it was a good thing as he was overweight before! He was too heavy but starving him was not a good way to make him lost weight especially over such a short period. As a result he never wants to go back to hospital again.
I was under a lot of pressure to have him back home. We do not have a lot of room at home so after some consideration he and I decided his care would be better handled in a nursing home and he has been there now for nearly 14 months.
He is bedbound and totally helpless, so needs complete personal care and is fed liquidised food. He can watch TV but that is all. We struggle to converse. I ask him closed questions to which he answers but the answers are not clear and consist of a 'yes' or 'no' sound. The carers in the home try hard and do their best. Some are much better than others. He is just imprisoned.
He receives funding from the NHS which helps with his fees and we applied for CHC but it was refused last year. Should we try again?