Today we are reminded that it has been 3 years since my Dad passed away, after an 18 month fight of colon cancer. Momma wanted to take flowers to the cemetery today ... it’s amazing how much can change in 3 years.
3 years ago today, Momma was caring for Dad - she was his caretaker. 3 years ago today, she was walking, cooking, cleaning, and having conversation. So much change ...
All these bench mark reminders on the calendar can really put things into perspective.
Today, she sat quietly and stared across the cematary. I sat quietly with her. No tears, very little emotion, but her eyes fixed on his grave. I held her hand and she softly squeezed back, and I whispered, I love you Momma, and she whispered back “I love you” ...
I’ve decided to remind her constantly how loved she is, and what a wonderful mother she has been to us kids... and how much of an example, displaying love, strength and perseverance over the years.
It’s a hard journey we are all on, and each day brings on new challenges- but, as we push through this horrible disease ... stop and look into those eyes and remind them of how much they are loved and appreciated... looking past the curtain of this disease that is trying to cloud their vision a little more each day.
Sending blessings and encouragement to all of you gladiators out there!
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It's nice you took her. I am sure she appreciates everything you are doing for her. Your benchmarks on the calendar are a reminder to us all that we don't have any guarantees in our lives. Enjoy each day and hopefully make someone laugh along the way
I am very glad that you have decided to CONSTANTLY tell your mom what a great mom, and how much she is loved. Before my son got sick I use to tell him all the time, and then when he got sick..... I didn't, as much as I had, until a few weeks before he died. "Caring" gets in the way. Looking back I am soooo grateful for all that we did together, for all the apologies from me, and forgiveness he gave back. Fewer things to regret, and less questions unanswered.
Your story sounds similar to mine, Mum looked after Dad during his fight against colon cancer and then afterwards started to demonstrate PSP symptons more definitely. We used to go and visit his apple tree in the local community orchard. I have always felt blessed (and I think it partly because of the challenges Mum & Dad had to face, losing 2 sons, one suddenly in infancy and the other in middle age after years of ill health) that we were always prepared to tell each other that we loved how much we loved and what we meant to each other. What I also used to say when Mum thanked me for my help or someone said what a good job I was doing looking after Mum, it was how I was brought up and that used to make her smile but it's very true Mum showed me how to care for people and it was her time to have a little pay back and I made sure she knew that. Which I am sure is how you feel with yours. Love to you both. xxx
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