“The Art of Dying Well” (or a similar book)

[Ettavb]

Has anyone read this book or something similar? I picked it up from my local library and it has been very helpful to me, I really wish I had come across it sooner. It serves to validate and give language to ideas I’ve not been able to articulate. It also normalizes my take on things when conversations with mom about “next steps” has been complicated by her general nonacceptance to the circumstances of her condition (and/or her inability to process it).

I’ve felt like taking a highlighter to many passages so as to then share with mom and/or others to say “see? ...that thought I had... IS inline with what we are dealing with” (but it’s a library book!😁)

[honjen43]

Have not read the book, but know how you feel!

In all the frustration and confusion, it is rewarding to find anything, a book, a U-tube video, a research paper, that validates your own feelings, suppositions, suspicions- especially when dealing with medical staff who at times seem to have scant knowledge of what is happening to our loved one! And also helps us understand our inarticulate loved one!

Hugs

Jen xxx

[enjoysalud]

I have not read the book, but with your recommendation plan to read it in the future.

My son died of PSP May 4, 2017. I had always talked to my children of death, as it was an integral part of life. In 2006 I bought my son WHAT IS DEATH by Etan Boritzer. I found it at a street faire. It's a children's book but I gave it to my son when he was 44 years old.

When we knew he was dying I pulled it out and would read it to him. It's philosophical and comforting. It still comforts me.

Thank you for recommending your book.

Margarita, Los Angeles, CA, USA

[Ettavb in reply to enjoysalud]

Thank you, I'm looking up your book as well!

[Ettavb in reply to Ettavb]

This would have been a great book to use when my kids first experienced the death of a beloved pet... again, wish I'd known about this one earlier too!! (Thanks again)

[enjoysalud]

Who is the author? Amazon.com has several books of that title by different authors.

[Ettavb in reply to enjoysalud]

Katy Butler

[enjoysalud in reply to Ettavb]

Thanks! So much to read and so little time.

[Spiralsparkle]

Dr Kathryn Mannix also has great books on the end of life topic. I follow her on social media.

[Inarticulate in reply to Spiralsparkle]

Agreed. It was of great comfort in managing our feelings when mum died and has helped to articulate the acceptance for the normality of death. X

[pune_india]

Here are links to talks given by the author which summarizes the message very well (incase you dont have time to read the book):

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[Ettavb]

Thank you for sharing.