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Well heck..travelling the path again

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Brief summary of past several months. My MIL got herself in a bit of a bind and moved in with us. I have suspected for a while something was "off" but her kids, wife included, said "that's normal for mom". I stopped bringing the issue up. In mid July we were at a rodeo and she basically blacked out, EMTs were on hand and she went to ER. After a battery of tests and 3 days in hospital ovarian cancer was suspected. Doctor of oncology confirmed late stage 3 and treatment plan was decided on, chemo with possible surgery. She is doing her fifth round of chemo in the morning and as of now surgery is not an option.

Fast forward a bit...she is still showing signs of something else going on. Today, after much persuasion and bickering, she saw a neurologist. He has comfirmed my fears of early onset dementia. Barring anything positive on a few blood tests she'll start medications for it next week.

Since I've been down this road we have all legal stuff done for when we have to step in for decision making.

Ron

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Kevin_1

Oh, Ron

All of this on top of your Dad?

Wishing you energy and fortitude.

So, sorry to hear this.

Warmly

Kevin

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Dadshelper in reply toKevin_1

Thanks. Trust me I had more then a few choice words to say as there are other kids in the picture. As my wife pointed out "we are not given more then we can handle". I guess someone thinks we can handle a heck of a lot!

Ron

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AliBee1 in reply toDadshelper

I agree with your wife and also with you. I don't know how we take it all on board and it does seem very very unfair and just sometimes I would love to just be a real weakling and not take it all on board! God bless AliBeexx

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SewBears

When it rains it pours. I’m so sorry! And all we can do is soldier on...

❤️

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Tippyleaf

Dear Ron

Sorry to hear this

Sending lots of love to you and your wife as you once again go into battle

Tippy xxx

Having gone through care giving once to be asked to do it again so soon if others are available is a lot to be asked.

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doglington

So sorry to hear that. It seems unfair.

I get irritated when people say we are only given what we can cope with.

Love Jean xx

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fishponds

sorry to hear Ron .sending hugs and good wishes

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rriddle

Sorry to read this.

Could this be "chemo brain" or was something in the works prior to the chemotherapy?

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Dadshelper in reply torriddle

There were issues I noticed prior to chemo. I am sure that "chemo brain" is making it more noticeable now. Her oncologist was the one that convinced her to seek a Neuro consult.

Ron

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Nanny857

Sorry to hear this Ron, as it's not that long since your dad past away. Sending a big hug and love to you. Nanny857xx

Gosh sometimes it is just so overwhelming,truly sorry your having to endure more then any one person should have to.

Hugs

Dee

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journeyofjoy

Ron, I am sorry to hear this - for your MIL, your wife, and you. Yes, you've been down this road or a similar one. Your wealth of experience will be helpful but I hope you aren't the main caregiver this time around. I can't imagine this type of caregiving back to back.

And as everyone always says, take care of yourself.

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AJK2001

So sorry to hear this Ron, I do hope the other siblings face up to their responsibilities and help out, you and your wife have had so much to deal with.

Take care xxx

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racinlady

Ron,

Your MIL is a very lucky lady to have you for a SIL. Your experience will come in handy. I hope more of her family will step up and share the load though. You've had more than your share and a little break would be nice.

Hugs,

Pat

Sending Hugs of Support... Granni

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