Larry is failing rapidly now. His nurse thinks he may die later this week. He was to have come home today from respite care. Taking a cue from the advice on this website I decided it is time for me to be his spouse not his care giver. When I told the nurse that she was relieved. They can handle the drug giving better than I could. Before I left yesterday his nurse came in and put a port into his should to administer the Ativan and morphine as they see fit. They are far better qualified to deal with this part of his death.
When I got home I called the VNA social worker (this is the hospice in Philadelphia I am using) to set up a direct cremation. She gave me a few place. She recommended one she said she would use for her family. I am going with them. The social worker entered the information into their computer system. Everything is in place now.