Worth a read.

[HilsandR]

thejollywidow.com/differenc...

This was sent to me by a friend this morning who lost her husband to cancer 2 years ago. It's an interesting read and I am sure will resonate with many.

Hils. X

[Baileyboo]

Good morning HilsandR

That is a really great description of grief. I read it this morning. Thank you for sharing it. I feel that how I am NOT coping is totally reflected in this.

If this helps just one person (other than myself) you have given a gift to us that is priceless.

I am muddling through my last meltdown but know things will improve. I miss Les so much it hurts as so many of us feel. I expect it may happen again as my situation hasn't changed but I am looking at it in a different way. I told my Dr yesterday that it will happen again but I will attempt to manage it better. That sounds so good but I also know that my mind just doesn't work when it does hit me. I guess knowing it is normal to feel so desperate makes it a little les scary.

Thank you Hils for posting this as it is so true.

Love and hugs and thanks

Love

Pat xx

[HilsandR in reply to Baileyboo]

Good morning Pat, I am glad that the grief article may go some way in helping you understand the way you are feeling. The thing is, grief is the most painful emotion we will ever experience so for some it will be all consuming, others will find their way through it making it look easy (that doesn't mean it's any less painful for them of course). I doubt it ever really goes away but having a few tips to ease the journey and help us manage can't be a bad thing, eh? Keep going, you'll get there! Love Hils. xx

[Baileyboo in reply to HilsandR]

Hi Hils

You are right just a few words at times are a great help

Love Pat x

[Kevin_1]

Thank you Hils

That is really good. I have read it and made a note of it for when my time comes. I suspect I will read it many times.

I see she mentions Eckhart Tolle. He is really worth a read too. His books come as audio with him reading them as well. He is exceptionally good on pain, grief, loss and feeling lost.

Anyway, thank you again

Warmly

Kevin

[HilsandR in reply to Kevin_1]

Hi Kevin, yes Eckhart Tolle is worth a read, his quotes are so meaningful and worth looking them up. I do believe that we are all programmed to survive grief, it's just how we get there that is the challenge. Best wishes to you and Liz. Hils. X

[raincitygirl]

Thanks Hils, I did find it a good read.

👍❤️

Anne G.

[SewBears]

Yes, worth a read indeed! I hope that I’ll be able to follow through and not become my own victim.

I’m already grieving and I don’t have a clue what I’m in for, but it can’t hurt to try and understand as much as possible in advance. I’m going to jot down some of the advice because I know I’m going to need it.

Thank you!