Advice / Insight

[bazooka111]

Looking for some insight / guidance...

My Momma lives with us now, and we built a home so she could be on the first floor - no more stairs. However, here we are a year later, and I am just above her on the second floor. Her right leg is dragging when she walks, and continues to worsen. She uses a rollater, and her bathroom is just a few steps from her bed ... just recently added a couple more grab bars to assist ...

I don’t sleep well anyway, but if she gets up In the middle of the night ... I can “sometimes” hear her movements down there, because that leg is dragging heavy. Some of you, no doubt have experienced this ... I’m anxious ... stressed with the fact that there is an inevitable fall, and I can’t be there every second ... super stressed

Is it crazy to think that I want to put a monitor in her room of some sort? She has a ring button in Her room, and she uses it sometimes to call me to come to her, but at night is the worse for me. I am self employed, so I work from Home —- during the day I’m at peace with what we have set up .... but it is the night time.

Do any of you have any insight on options that may have worked for you?

Appreciate all of you on this site ...

Kim

[honjen43]

Just an initial thought! Does Sam sleep in mum's room? Can he be taught to bark if she falls? Am sure he would cuddle up to her and keep her warm if she was down for a while unnoticed for some reason!

Yes. It is a worry as you notice changes and then worry about what you know can happen.

Commode chair to bathroom? Commode by bed? Ugghh! I know!

Reduce late evening drinks.

Night watch nurse some of time?

Convene? And I have no idea how well they work with women! And they take a bit of getting used to.

Hope others have better ideas.

Hugs

Jen xxx

[Tippyleaf]

Hi Kim

We have an internal wireless doorbell which R presses when he wants anything -though these days he forgets more often than not!!

We also have a bed sensor which alerts me when he starts to get up I then whizz into his room and prevent the fall from the bed to floor -this bed sensor is so useful in the evening Once hubby in

Bed I keep in my pocket as I whizz around doing jobs knowing he is safe!

I have thought of a nanny camera for bedroom but not yet gone there.

We tried a baby listener didn’t work for us as he is a noisy breather and has CPAP machine though I know others have found them Helpful.

Love Tippy

[Helen119]

We have a baby monitor which I can turn off or turn down my end(in my bedroom), it works well, once the monitor gets used to a noise ie telly on low level, breathing or snoring, I don’t hear anything until there is a sudden noise or I turn my end up, the only thing which is a little annoying is, Colin has a hospital bed with a air mattress and sometimes I can hear that going on and off.

Hope you find something that suits

Love and hugs xxx

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The nursing home had a bed sensor & a large pad on the floor with an alarm for my mom. Seems no system is perfect for everyone but l lIke that we can share ideas that have worked. This forum is a blessing. Sending hugs. .. Granni B

[Dadshelper]

Sound advice has already been given. We used a wireless doorbell, baby monitor and bedside commode as things progressed. Even the commode had it's issue as dad knocked it over one night, luckily he didn't get hurt and it was empty. Short of hiring an overnight aid to come in you just have to accept a fall may happen while you are sleeping. It's definitely not a good solution but you can't be awake 24/7 or go long on broken sleep. Even with you right there a fall may happen as long as she is mobile.

This just came to me as I was typing....what if hooked a bell to her walker? It would ring as she moved, not that it will help you sleep, but you may hear it better and know when she is moving, even during the day when you are working.

Ron

[easterncedar]

Last year bought a little motion-sensing camera for about 140 bucks and downloaded an app to my phone. When my mother moves about at home, I get a beep. When her aide arrives, I know! (I can even listen in. They both know it's there but ignore it.) This gives us both peace of mind while I'm at work. I wish I had had this while I was taking care of my sweetheart with PSP. It would have made everything so much more manageable. He so often got up in the night while I was trying desperately to sleep in the next room. With a few seconds warning I could have saved us so much pain and trouble.

[bazooka111 in reply to easterncedar]

So I invested in a motion sensing camera!!! It’s a major thumbs up from me!! It’s connected to my phone with night vision - perfect! It sends me alerts - this was a home run - so thank you for all the tips and suggestions - ((hugs to everyone))

[easterncedar]

So glad to hear it.