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My sweetheart has left

My darling hubby of 36 years passed away this morning at 63. I am trying not to do the "should have" and "if only" bit.

At least his suffering is over.

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I am so sorry for your loss, the fact that our loved ones, soul mates, best friends have had to suffer this awful disease does not make their loss any easier to bear. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones.

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Thank you for your kind words.

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Very sorry to read about your husband

Such a sad time for you. I hope he was blessed with a peaceful passing.

Your heart must be broken 36 years is a long time.

Love to you

Lynda xx

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Thank you for your kindness.

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I’m so very very sorry, all I will say is that your sweetheart is now at peace and free of this evil disease.

Sending much love to you x

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I am very sorry for you and your families loss. Don't play the should have/would have/could have game. I am sure you did your best, take comfort in the fact he is at peace.

Ron

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My heart goes out to you. Wish l could do more for you than send Vertual Hugs... Granni B

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Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

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Please know that you will remain in my prayers...

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I'm really sorry to hear about your husband. Be kind to yourself.

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I'm so sorry to hear that. Most of us feel we could have done more. It's natural. However I'm sure you did all you could.

In time it will be seen in perspective and you will have more positive memories.

Now you need to look after yourself.

Love Jean xx

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My hearts go out to you and your family. Do hope your heart heals in time.

Hugs

Dee

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So sorry for your loss try and think about the happier times you had bless you xx

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Sorry for your loss

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So sorry to hear of your hubby's passing. I too, as well as a lot of others feel the same as you do.

My TJ passed away 8 months ago and I still feel that maybe I could have done more but with a lot of thought and family and friends knowing what I did, they continue to tell me that they feel I did as much as anyone could. This helps, but you still have doubts.

My daughter and family are at the moment in his room, packing up things. I still can't deal with it. After 47 years of marriage I still have problems with accepting that he will not be back to sleep in HIS room.

He suffered terribly towards the end, so he is now in a better place. This I know, as he was in hell on earth.

Maybe in time things will seem better. I can only hope.

You will find this site really helpful. I have gained a lot of perspective and wonderful wishes through the people here who are so supportive.

My prayers go with you.

Caz

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When my son was born I could not believe the hospital was trusting me with his life. I felt the same way leaving the hospital with my husband three weeks ago. I know he appreciated the care I gave him, and I hope I will eventually forgive myself for not waking up to call 911 earlier.

Thank you for your support, and good luck in your journey.

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Oh you poor love, your husbands passing and the lead up to it sound so similar to my husbands passing. It would have made no difference if you had woken up earlier honestly you did everything you could and he will know that.

Love Sarahxxxx

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So very sorry for your loss. Hold the memories of the life you shared together close in your heart.

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My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. Take solace that your darling sweetheart is no longer having to fight this devastating disease.

So please keep on keeping on.

Anne x

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A big hug.

Luis

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I am sending you lots of love and hugs, it is so hard isn’t it, my beautiful husband of 2 months passed away on Boxing Day and I know what you mean about the could of/ should of . I did a lot of that but now I am just focusing on all the beautiful memories and of what I did do for him. We all do our absolute best for our loved ones but we are only human. Your husband will be so proud of what you did for him. So if you can focus on the good times and try and do something in the next week that you would have done together as it’s quite therapeutic to continue to do those things. I went to the local parkrun where Steve and I met a few days after he passed away and they did a lovely tribute to him the applause went on and on and everyone was so kind, I shed a few tears but then completed the run and it was like a load had been removed and I felt so much better and at peace and I really felt like he was with me. I will be thinking of you as I know how difficult the coming days will be. I am off to parkrun this morning and will dedicate my run to you and your husband.

Sending you lots of love

Love Sarahxxx

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So sweet of you to think of us during your time of sorrow. When I read about Steve passing I went back and read your posts--yours is a truly wonderful love story and I was so glad to hear you and he managed to pull off the wedding!

I had a really hard time coming into my room last night but I slept. Until 2:30. So opening up the laptop and having all these words of comfort means a lot.

Thanks.

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So sorry to hear of your loss. He was far too young. Don't beat yourself up as you did as much as you could xx

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GreelyCat,

My heart breaks for you and your loss. No one really understands the pain of watching your love one slowly decline from this cruel disease, but I wish you strength and comfort during this time. Also wisdom for you in your care of your stepson.

My wife passed away 7 months ago and we had been married for over 35 years. I was numb for the first month. Now I’m trying to figure out life without her.

Prayers of strenght and comfort,

Bobby

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Thank you for your kind words. So much of the day (and night) was spent caring for him that the day stretches on endlessly until we finally reach the much dreaded evening hours.

Aside from all the paperwork, I have no idea how to fill my days. By the time I go back to work my home should be spotless!

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Feeling for you, it is never easy to let a loved one go and must be so hard at such a young age to lose your true love. Thoughts are with you. xxx

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Dear greelycat,

I am so sorry to hear of your husbands passing... sending you so much love and strength . You did everything you could and more I’m sure xxx

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I am so sorry to hear about your darling husband.

My heart goes out to you and your family.

Denise x

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My heart goes out to you at this very sad time. Xxxxx

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Thinking of you this very sad time. I’m only 63 and was diagnosed with this dreadful disease last week. You’re in my prayers xxx

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I wish you the best of luck in your journey. My best advice to you is be prepared for your illness to progress slowly at times, and very rapidly at others. We were so certain that we would experience several hospitalizations--never dreaming that the first time he was hospitalized he would be gone three weeks later. Gerry was first diagnosed with Parkinsons in 2013(we had spent about two years looking for causes of his symptom), PSP was determined to be the diagnosis in 2015. So he was 55 when we first suspected something was not right. This was the softening of his speech and the diminishing of his handwriting.

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I`m so sorry to hear your sad news. Please don`t dwell on `what might have been`, I know only too well that will give you sleepless nights and is a pointless exercise.

My advice is to be kind to yourself - some days will be easier than others but try to remember all those good times and hopefully the happy memories will gradually push the bad ones to the back of your mind.

Hugs x

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I'm so very sorry for your loss. He has earned his wings, soar on high.

Tim xx

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I am so sorry and send you my heartfelt condolences. It is so difficult but knowing they aren’t suffering anymore helps a bit but only a bit. So very sad. Take care.

Cuttercat

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My sincere condolences on your huge loss, greely. You have now joined another club that you never wanted to belong to 💔

Although its completely natural to think "if only I had..." I hope you'll think instead that "at least he died at home and with me beside him" which is a pretty big positive as death goes.

At least that thought helped me :-)

I hope you have close family and friends to keep in touch with you, but if you need us we are here. ❤️❤️❤️

Anne G.

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Yes, you are right. Every time I have one of those awful thoughts I remember that he was where he wanted to be.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I am wishing comfort and peace for you.

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Thank you for the kind words.

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So sorry to hear that your darling hubby has gone, the ache in your soul must be so great. 36 years of memories and wishes of many more.

Thinking of you

X

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Dear One, so sorry for your loss your hubby is at peace now, no more of this dreaded disease, take care of your self, I know time will heal but never the same. Many hugs to you and your family. Nettie

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My deepest condolences!

May He Rest in Peace!

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