This is so true!
Feeling sad 😔: This is so true! - PSP Association
Feeling sad 😔
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Patriciapmr
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Yes so true. Do hope you are OK Pat.
I just had the anniversary - can't believe it was a whole year ago.
Vicki x
Hi Vicki,
It's nearly nine months for me now, I'm still struggling and can't seem to get motivated to do anything these days, I hate feeling like this and miss Keith so much!
Love and hugs....Pat xx
Yes it's so hard to get motivated to do anything much. I have managed a couple of holidays though and am thinking of moving house.
V
Pat!!!
Guess what i did to get out of that unmotivated feeling...and well it was also a spiritual enlightenment though one may not be able to see past the sign.....I got a job at.......MCdonalds...hahahaha I like you, was just doing nothing or feeling unmotivated.....I missed my man I felt like there is a greater importance to me than staring at the walls.......now if we dissect this job too much we lose the meaning for me....and that is pride and sadness ..... I was too good for such a job and too sad to do my profession....but when I listened I heard get up get out and make people smile.....you can do this......I started Monday already worked 2 hours overtime by Friday.....hahahah
Pat I know how you feel though my disconnect is only physical. I know my man is resting with the Lord which gives me comfort. Girl get up get out....you have to do something I have spenty the last 6 months staring at the walls GET OUT ! go beyond what you think you can do......volunteer....get a simple job start writing notes to your friends and familiy....journal!
these are the things I do to make contact with others
Pray
Go to church
text my kids
go to mtgs for my alcohol abuse
hang out with my foster grandson
walk the dog
got that job.....talk to customers ...t-shirts speak big about ones personality....at least make a good topic of conversation.....T
people may not like me saying this but....
GET OUT and do it Pat...You can, I promise Its a new journey but not a bad one darlin'.... don't worry I cryin with you I've got no tears left just God tellin me GO.....
Love you
Do well
Andrea
"Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, "Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?" And I said, "Here am I. Send me! : Isaiah 6:8
Hey Andrea, a job! Well Done you!!! I am most impressed. Not sure I would be capable of holding down a job yet. Brain still feels like mash. I am trying to get out as much as I can. Joined a group called the Jolly Dollies. A group of widows, it's taken a while, but I am starting to get something out of it now. Going out with them tonight, for a meal in one of the local pubs. We are always one of the noisiest groups, never stop laughing. Love seeing the look on people faces, when they ask who we are and what we are celebrating!
Lots of love
Anne
Anne live you as well you are also amazing so much respect for both of you xxx Yvonne xxx
Thank you!
Andrea I love you, you are amazing Yvonne xxxx
I had the nine month mark, last week. Been down in the dumps for several weeks. My sister tells me, it's classic 9 month syndrome. So it's perfectly normal, what you and me are feeling. AVB is right, you have to get out more. I am trying, not sure about a job though, don't think my brain could cope. Still feels like mash.
There are holiday companies that specialise in trips away for single people. Just You, who I used, in the summer were great. Nearly everyone on the holiday, was in the same situation to me.
Don't beat yourself up Pat, it's still very early days. You loved your Keith, There is no way you can get over his loss, in a few short months, if you even wanted to! They are always going to be with us, in our hearts. The pain will become our new normal. One day, we will learn to accept this, unfortunately, today is not that Day.
Sending big hug and much love.
Lots of love
Anne
Oh Pat, of course you miss Keith, he was the love of your life. You are a lovely, warm human being , your feelings are purely natural.
I remember the lovely photo you posted. We wore those fashions too. Where did the years go?
I have just visited B in the Palliative Care Unit. The CCG ( CHC body) have only awarded B. 4 visits a day for peg feeding and medicating when he comes home. They and the hospital think he should go into a nursing home as he needs 24 hour care. He does not want this.
I cannot think of a future without him as I would fall apart. I just focus on the here and now. We have been married for over 49 years.
Reading about the thoughts and feelings of you and others is so helpful to people in my position.
I feel stronger knowing you are all there, willing to listen and to help with advice. Even when it is explaining how you feel when the worst has happened, I feel stronger knowing this.
Sending my thanks and a big warm hug. Rx
Love and hugs I understand. Mine has been little over 2 months. I break down unexpectedly. Going to grief counseling I hope it helps. I don’t socialize much I find it hard to bear. My daughters seem over it occasional break downs. Maybe age gap I don’t know. I was married for 44 years I still thought there was time, it went so sudden. May god look after us all.
Oh Patriciapmr! Sending you a great big hug! X
Thank you so much, needed that hug!....xx
Pat I know how you feel. I feel like I have gone backwards instead of forwards if that makes sense?
I struggle to get anything done including things which are important!
You know I am here for you if you want to talk or meet up for lunch?
Marie x
Hi Marie,
Sorry I've not replied to you before, my sister lost her husband 11 days ago, she has been so supportive to me and now she's going through it, my 88 year old Dad has been housebound for 5 weeks and is very demanding so I'm feeling slightly stressed out at the moment!
Shirley has just been on a 5 day holiday to Crete by herself, I don't know if I'll ever be strong enough to do that!
As soon as things calm down (if ever!) I'll be in touch and arrange a get together for the three of us, Shirley and I were supposed to be going away soon but the way things are going at present that seems doubtful!
Love Pat....xx
Pat it is so sad that in less than a year you and your family have faced so much. Love to your sister from me. Of course she needs you right now but you need to try to make a step or two forward sweet lady. Don't forget that? When she is ready she is very welcome to join us for lunch. It might help knowing we have been through a loss too?
Your Dad being housebound is another problem. He will not be happy to be housebound? How could he? That makes it so difficult for you and your sister. Is there anyone else in the family who can take care of him to give you a break?
Think about it Pat. Anyway I am here for you if you want to talk, even if now is not a good time for you to meet for lunch. Just don't leave it too long or it might never happen.
I didn't know Shirley had gone away to Crete alone. She is braver than I am! I haven't had a holiday yet. If I do I won't be going alone that's for sure. I thought you were going away with her next year? A lot can happen in a year as we know? I am sure not all of it is bad! Well I hope not.
Lots of love and hugs to you Pat.
Marie x
Meet up for lunch?....I want to go to there My spirit will be there when ya'll get together!
AVB
Pat hang in there, you have had loads to deal with, think you are amazing as well, sending you a big hug, try getting out a bit more, easy for me to say, but I am sure you will feel better xxxx Yvonne xxxx
So true Pat, even for those of us who haven't actually lost our loved one it feels like we have, it's like hanging in limbo land. Sending my love
Kate xx
Oh, Pat
There is nothing I can say except send you big hugs and lot's of understanding.
Kevin
xxx
Sadly my wife passed away at 7pm tonight 17th Jan
Feeling overwhelmed!!
The strangest feeling
My husband Tony sadly died on Friday after suffering for many years from PSP. 
