Dear friends it will soon be time for me to leave this site , not just yet but soon . I am finding bereavement very difficult to deal with and I feel I must try to rejoin the outside world again . Before I go I would like to offer my heartfelt thanks for all the love , support and advice that Veronica and I received over the three years we have been here . Without you all I would really have struggled to manage . I hope in some small way I have been able to reciprocate and return some of the comfort you have given me .
Can I offer just a few thoughts . Love your partner like you have never loved them before . Kiss them goodnight , kiss them good morning . Give them a hug at every available opportunity , hold their hands , stroke their faces . Make them feel they are the most precious person to you in the world . Give them the best quality of life that is in your power to do - you wont regret it . When you are tired and exhausted and your patience is stretched to its limits and you have been a bit sharp , take a breath and think where would I rather be , standing here or sitting in that chair day in day out unable to do anything for myself and probably not understanding what is happening to me . There is only one answer and it stood me in good stead when things got really tough as they do for all carers .
It is often difficult to feel loving to ones partner when their personality has changed and they are not the person you have known and loved be it husband ,wife father or mother . But its not their fault and that's not always easy to remember when you are under so much pressure .
I don't mind admitting that there were times when I wished it was all over but when it was , all I can think is that I would do it all over again just to have a little more time.
Some of you were kind enough to encourage my scribblings and so I have set up a blog on Google where I am going to try to chronicle how I have to deal with a fresh start , a new life as a widower with all that entails .I think if you Google " blog or blogger Georgepa "you will find me, that's if you want to ( there might even be a bit of the Georgepa at large in the Devon countryside when I feel I can face it again ). This is my e-mail address for anyone who wants to contact just for a chat and stay in touch firstname.lastname@example.org
Finally ,even though I may not be here ,my thoughts will be with you , the magnificent carers and those who bravely suffer this awful illness. . Be strong , be brave and above all be loving .
yours with thanks and love