After months of my mother in law being in the home, the family has come to the realization that she will not be coming out.
We are moving all her belongings out of her condo, we have leased it out.
The other day I went to her place and started packing her personal belongings, my husband and his brother cannot do this, they are too attached. When I volunteered my husband breathed a sigh of relief.
I was close to my mother in law, corection, still am. She called me in a few months ago when she was still at home and gave me specific instructions from what she wants to wear when she passes to who gets her jewellery. I thought that was it, she was going, but here we are 6 months later.
I went through all her clothes and found some pretty incredible things. She was a seamstress, a damn good one. She had so many bed sheets and napkins that she embroided by hand, it was her way of making a boring piece of cotton or linen look nice. Looking back it was such a pity she gave up sewing so many years ago to help her husband at his butcher shop. She did however make all her clothes, and when she was tired of that look, she would take it apart and make something else with the same fabric. If you looked on the inside of any garment she made, you could not tell the inside from the outside, she was a perfectionist.....CBD took that from her.
As I was going through her stuff, I noticed something, she kept everything. I bought her a beautiful apron from Italy a few years ago, it was tucked away never to be used. I found almost everything we ever bought her tucked away, almost as if she was waiting for a special occassion to wear it, but that special occassion never happened.
I have the ability to remove myself from any situation and deal with the task at hand. I don't put my emotions into it. I don't think a momento is important, I think time is important, I believe once someone is gone the material things dont matter to them so why should they matter to us?
So as I was packing all her belongings and preparing to move all her furniture into storage I thought about her. How she never spent any money, how she would save that one piece of lace just in case she could use it on something. How she worked so hard all her life putting everything away for a 'just in case' moment. And in the end, everything she saved, everything se kept is of no use to her.
So, live for today, if you want to do something, do it. If you have a bucket list, go through it and if you want to tell someone something, say it.....like the song goes
we're here for a good time, not a long time, so have a good time the sun don't shine everyday.......