So we placed my mother in law into her new home, it really is a great place and I got to spend the entire day with her. We were lucky enough to see a family friend there when we entered, his dad has been there for a few years with no complaints, I think that put her mind at ease a little.
We moved on to her room which we decorated with pictures and a few momentos from home. The day was filled with interviews with the entire staff, lunch and and more interviews and paper signing.
She rested for a bit on her bed, she is used to lying down all day watching her Italian TV shows but since the cable isn't connected she couldn't do that. Soon enough it was time for dinner, her table has 4 people 2 are bat crazy but so much fun to talk to, almost feels like we are talking to children with inocent minds, the other lady is sweet, we made immediate friends. My mother in law is anti social, she has never been one to strike up a conversation, she always says that I talk too much lol. So I did the majority of talking and letting everyone know that she has limited ability to speak but understands everything.
She had an anxiety attack as I forgot to bring her face towel to dinner, I told her to take a napkin as all she wanted to do was wipe the food off her face, she didn't take well to that but I have to make her realize that that is no reason to freak out. She has been treated with kid gloves for years now with people at her becon call, at times she will tell her caregivers that they have to do as they are told as they work for her...you see my mother in law was like that before the illness hit her. She worked for my husband and I after they closed down their store, she would tell them the same thing, that they had to listen to her and not me as she was the owners mother. I never understood that side of her, we have always been very close and talked but she always had her guard up I never felt she could express her full feelings and I dont kow why. I love her dearly and will do my best by her, I just never understood her.
Back to yesturday, after dinner her other son came to relieve us, he didnt plan on staying till late but he couldn't leave until she was in bed. As soon as he left all hell broke loose, she cried and got herself so riled up that she fell off the bed (they bring the bed down to the floor at night to prevent injury during falls) and knocked her head on the edge of the night table. After that they kept her on her chair at the nurses station I am going this morning after I get a few things done at work to see what thee situation is.
My question to everyone is this, she is on Zoloft 100mg and Trazadone 100mg with ZERO effect, I have told her specialist that she had adverse reactions to calming medicine and asked for something else, they calmly tell me that we have to wait and see what effect they have. Well honey, it has been 4 weeks since we upped the meds and nada. I dont want her drugged up BUT I want her to relax. HELP !!!