How are all of you holding up? Those who are where I am (having recently lost the ones they love), and those of you in the trenches (dealing with whatever PSP has decided to bombard you with on a daily basis).
Somehow I managed to get my act together today and seek legal counsel. Thank God I did! The lawyer was appalled as I gave him the details of my circumstances. Legally I do not even have to acknowledge any financial inquisitions for 60 days and do not have to take any action for 6 months! His family began pressuring me to make financial decisions the DAY after he passed.Really. I have been in the twilight zone. I cannot even think coherently let alone make decisions that will affect the rest of my life. It comes down to this: no one has a clue what our daily lives are like unless you have lived it. Period. Don't tell me what an "angel" I am and then ask me to account for every penny I have spent in the last years caring for him. They do not have a clue. One day. I would give them one day in the life of a PSP carer in any stage and they would not make it past noon.
So I advise all of you, regardless of what "stage" you are in, due your due diligence! Power of Attorney, living will, DNR, trusts. Whatever your circumstances, no matter how beaten down and exhausted you are. TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS! You think you cannot afford to? You can't afford not to. Do your homework. The last thing you want to deal with when your heart is breaking is deal with legal/financial circumstances. Don't take anything for granted. Especially if circumstances are complicated. You'd be surprised how many are.
I always expect others to conduct themselves in the world the way I do and am inevitably disappointed. Except for all of you who constantly reaffirm that there are good, kind, true people out there. I thank God, the universe, (whatever you believe) everyday, for the support I receive from all of you!
Whoever you are, whatever you are enmeshed in at the moment (why does crap come to mind:)? I send you all virtual love and massive shoulders to lean on and hugs.
Take care of yourselves,