Today I am not trying. I realize that these days I am always trying. Trying to keep things together, trying to keep the house clean even though Bob is in continual movement creating chaos/dirt/ messiness right behind me, trying to not be depressed, trying to be positive, trying to do something meaningful, trying to stay in touch with people, trying to pay my bills, trying to stay a bit suspended above sloth. So today...no trying. Took my shower at 12:00 noon, left Bob pretty much alone, ate what and when I wanted to, did not clean up Bob's trail of branches and leaves that he brings into the house, left the piles of laundry, unanswered emails, no diets, no make-up, no happy face, no reaching out to others, no list making or journal keeping, no worrying, no guilt, no nothing.....I'll let you know how this works....vacation day? Day of SLOTH.
Jill
Costa Rica
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Well done. May you have many more Sloth days and don't feel guilty if the laundry is in a pile and please don't try and do double tomorrow. So what if the place isn't immaculate. As soon as I clear washing, there is more. As soon as I vacuum there are more bits of tissue on the floor so now I clear up when I feel like it, not when I think it needs to be done and it hasn't stopped people coming to see us so they don't seem to mind a bit of clutter. I do keep the toilets clean though. I have 14 ukulele players coming tomorrow and they will all tread in dirt so I'm not bothering to vacuum before they come. I often think of the poem someone posted which starts, dust if you must, but wouldn't it be better to paint a picture or write a letter.......YES!
hi jill I think it will do you good to have this moment of just doing what you want to do for yourself mate it will get some of the aggravation out of you it sounds like you need a real good holiday or some more days off for yourself ---- you need a break mate I hope you can get it == its not an easy life is it looking after us with psp is it here's hopeing that you can get a break from everything soon peter jones queensland Australia psp sufferer take care mate
Hi Jill it sounds just the kind of stuff I am planning for International BE GOOD TO YOURSELF Carers Day . Its going to be a day when all carers around the world take some time out for themselves- even if it is only a bit of a day - pull out all the stops to get help to achieve it . Stay in bed - buy yourself some new clothes soak in a long bath - eat cream cakes - go to the pictures- don't cook - no washing ironing or housework absolutely forbidden . Drink an extra glass of wine or three. Of course we are not going to abandon the people we care for and love but just for a while let someone else take on the responsibility and feel totally free of all your obligations - do something wild and outrageous or not whatever grabs you then come back refreshed and re energised and we can do it all again another time . We n=managed the universal scream so why not this ?
Jill I too have had a day of nothing. Didn't feel like it. Feeling blah! Not sad, not mad, not anything, just blah. I'm hoping that after sleeping tonight that tomorrow will bring sun to my heart and mind, and for you too dear Jill.
Hi Jill glad you had some time to do some me time we all deserve that time but feel bad to do it we should all take a leaf out of it and do it. I feel something inside myself can't put my finger on it feel like part of me is not working really funny feeling, you are all wonderful people so look forward to reading your stories/feeling do any of you live in bishops stortford? Love to you all Yvonne xxxx
after 11 years or so ,I can no longer remember for sure ,as I sit here listening at the monitor as I must 24/7 I realize that time has past for even a bit of self time except when the nurse thankfully comes to relieve me , so go for it,Rollie
Good for you Jill! My motto has always been, why do today what needs doing tomorrow! Is there any way you can get away for a night? Or have some friends stay the night, so you can have a bit of fun, drink some wine, talk about things other than your husband. My daughter will occassionally come and stay the night, we open the wine and just chat and laugh. S joins in when he can, or just dozes in the chair. Not a break, but someone to share a few hours with.
I love sloths, they are such fun to watch. I remember finding one in the middle of the road, when we were in Costa Rica, took about 15 Minutes to cross the road, I was stopping all the traffic, he didn't have a care in the world. Reminds me a bit of how S is crossing the road, slow, deliberate, with the attitude, it's up to others to stop for me!!!
Perhaps we could call Georgepa's idea of "be good to yourself day". SLOTH DAY!
So enjoy your day, don't feel guilty, you need a break. That's far more important, than your house being spotless and clean sheets!!!
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Reality check ... Kim, and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day ;-) 
why don't people understand a carer can be tired? 
Angry trying to calm down
