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[nodramas]

Hi I am new ere I lost my mum last week on the 11th February , it was sudden even though she was 82 , the funeral is on Friday , my heart is broken just don't know how I will get though the day. Any advice please . Kind regards x

[revmmh]

Lots of prayers will go with you and get you through the day. Many times we ask what the deceased person would have wanted for the funeral-- special prayers, scripture, music. But also think about what YOU need to help you through your grief. Your mum is in need of nothing now - she is whole and free of this horrible disease! But you still have deep needs and much grief and loss. So if there is a song or a scripture that will give you strength - ask the priest/pastor to include it. If there is a special family story that may bring a smile and a happy memory, make sure it is shared. Find your own way to Celebrate Her Life! It will be easier to endure if you forget about behaving how others would "expect" you to and be free to express your grief as you need to - with tears or laughter, in dark or bright colors, in silence or with singing or maybe even all of the above. Blessings!

[shasha]

dear frantic - what can i say except how sorry i am to hear of your mums sad demise - i remember when my mum died in 0=2007 how awful i felt but was also happy that she was no longer suffering - if you can focus on that then maybe you wil be able to get through the day -

my love to you

[nodramas]

Thank you all for your kind words

[Hummingbird_]

Hello Frantic,

So very sorry to hear about your sad loss. I lost my Mum in Jan 2012 (cancer) and my Step-Dad, 7 months later (PSP) - I wish I had a magic wand but sadly I don't. My suggestion would be just go with the flow, there is no right or wrong way to grieve and the same with how you feel you need to be in front of others. As awful as PSP is, your Mum has now been released from that state and can finally rest in peace. Remember all the good times you had together, I'm quite sure she would not want you to be sad but instead talk about her and all the lovely memories you have. It won't be easy and my thoughts and prayers will be with you, especially tomorrow, but just try to be strong, accept any support that is offered by family/friends and most of all be reassured that your Mum will be watching over you from a much better place.

Take care,

Tree Hugger x

[easterncedar]

I'm very sorry for your loss; I also know how it feels to lose a parent, and how it is to be so stunned by grief you don't know how you'll get through it. But you do, and, though you never really get over the loss, life does come back. Meanwhile, I hope you have friends and family to talk to. Do try to remember and be grateful for the happy times, be gentle with yourself, and please write to us here, anytime. There are lots of people here who understand and care. Easterncedar

[wifemo]

Dear Frantic - There will be many people thinking of you tomorrow. I hope the sun shines for you.

Things will get better, even if it takes a while.

Take care

Mo

[jimandsharynp]

My sympathy goes out to you. Stay strong for your family. Remember, lots of eyes, including some little ones, are watching to see how you handle this. Use the support of a close friend or relative for strength when you feel you can't deal with it. Don't be embarrassed, it is normal to have tears and lots of other emotions at this time.

Hugs, Jimbo

[ultramodern]

Bonjour Frantic...so sorry to hear of your Mum's passing.(PSP I assume) I can tell you from experience Frantic that there's no worse moment in our lives as when we lose the loving Mum who gave birth to us. That's for certain. Another thing that's for certain ,Frantic, is that thank the lord it only happens ONCE in our lives. That once is so so difficult to bear...but.. in the words of the poet.. let all your grief pour out ...then.'keep calm and carry on' .

Remember that as you say ,even by to-days standards 82 is a good innings...especially when you have been through a disease as dreadful as PSP. I'm positive though that your Mum bore this horrendous burden with courage and fortitude...but now she's been released from it's grip. And that in itself must be of some comfort to those left behind to grief.

So Frantic, you were so right to call out to us here...as you can see we heard you.

If you were your Mum's primary carer then I'm sure you'll be able to aid others on this PSP/CBD forum with your first hand experience from the time your Mum was diagnosed till the untimely end. And that's very precious

to us all on this forum.

With you in mind, best brian.

[82wendy]

Dear frantic I lost my mum April 2013 I helped dad nurse her at home as she did not want to go into a hospice she had cancer.But I know your hurting now it does get easier celebrate her life remember her loves talk to her daily as I do cry when you want to, talk about her, and love her daily it does get better and remember she is in a better place love and best wishes hope the pain and eases.