Hi all, My name is Bryan. I am 39 years old, I am married with a 16 year old son. I work as a firefighter/paramedic. My father had prostate cancer a few years ago in his mid 50's and after that I started watching my PSA and glad that I did as I was diagnosed in February. I have elected to have the surgery as the doctors are giving me a great prognosis and as the surgery date approaches my mental state gets a little worse. The side affects of the surgery become more and more real everyday the surgery draws closer and I'm scared of how they will affect my life. My wife says your not your dad and you are young, but I look at it as science is science, right, so when she acts as if nothing is going to change in the bedroom I'm not sure how to respond, I get the same if not less attention in that area than normal, I feel like I'm on a timed clock and the hourglass is running out so I want to be in overdrive. I also worry about how the incontinence is going to affect my job, am I even going to be able to do my job with out pissing down my leg every time I lift a patient or fight a fire because of the physical stress I'm going to place on my body. I just need people to talk too that understand and that have the worries that I have about my future.