Alone in pregnancy my husband does not love me anymore please help

[Brind]

I am 9 months pregnant and I realised no matter how hard I try he doesn't love me any more . We are living separately now I feel alone . I feel sad and miserable all the time I feel this whole pregnancy was a mistake . I miss him I wish I had the love and affection other people got during pregnancy . I am in severe depression kindly help. I don't have parents or siblings or much friends. At this time I just feel every minute is painful.

[GCMH]

Hello lovely, I’m sorry to read about your situation but please remember how strong you are and you can get through this on your own if you have to. Have you met a network of friends through NCT in your area? If not there are networks of mums you can meet to help get support. You have to think of you and your new baby and try not to dwell on your broken relationship, men are funny creatures and are not worth zapping all our energy. You have to find happiness in yourself and for your little one and remember how strong and lucky you are to be 9 months pregnant, it’s a gift. It’s the hardest thing in the world losing a partner when you have such high expectations of how they should be behaving, I’m sure you feel disappointment and utter sadness and it’s hard when you look at other coupes but being on your own and having the love and happiness for your baby is better than being in a unhappy, unfulfilling relationship which will wear you down and ultimately create more sadness. Also do you really want a man in your life who wants to leave you when you are pregnant?

Only 2 days ago I wrote a post on here about my partner leaving me, I’m 8 weeks pregnant and I’ve come round to realising I’m better off without him and me and my baby will be in a better place creating our own happiness and not being in an environment where negativity is around. Try and turn a negative situation into a positive and I really wish you all the best.

Also there is a great charity called Crossways which I got in touch with when I was finding my situation impossible, you can call one of their councillors and talk through your situation. Their number is 02088928483. Super nice people, it’s free and it really helped me.

Wishing you the best of luck and happiness x

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Hello Brind

I am so so sorry to read this. You are not alone and it is great that you have reached out. Going through what you are is extremely hard at the best of times but at the moment you also have all your pregnancy hormones going around your body and mind. The most important thing you can do is talk about how you are feeling. Definitely speak with your dr and your midwife. Not only will they hopefully be able to get you anti depressants but also put you in touch with local support groups.

Sending you huge hugs. You are definitely not alone and you are an amazing woman xxx

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you have come to the right place you will make loads of friends and get loads of support.

if he dont love you then its better hes gone ( im really sorry if that sounds horrible ) but just think of the bundle of joy you got coming.... all your love will be on him/her and yer some times it will be hard but your never alone you will have you mv and hv and gp they will always be there to help .and you can always come on here for support or just people to talk to..... if he wants to be in babies life then let him if not then thats his loss.. its time to look to the future and forget about the past time to make lots of memories with your bundle of joy x

again sorry if I sounded nasty in that xx

[Annh17]

Hello

Sorry too hear this. You are not alone and is amazing and your brave to have wrote on here. We are here for each other on here.

You have got your beautiful little baby growing inside you, who loves you already and will always love you.

Talks to your GP/midwife or health visitor, once you have your beautiful baby in your arms, you won’t even think about him and you can put all your love into your baby. xx