AITA?

[KR2022]

Hi all, need some perspective here.... I have a 9 week old son with my partner, who lives 2 hours away from me and so never visits because he can't get the time. I'm raising our son basically by myself, he's my first child and the love of my life.

My son had his first vaccines the other day and was miserable, screaming and crying all the time, generally not well poor little love. Today he felt better and was much happier so for a laugh my mother and I put some chocolate minstrels on him for a laugh. I took a couple of photos and sent them to him to share the joke.... This is how it went (pictures in the comments, green is me and yes I got upset x)

[KR2022]

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[KR2022 in reply to KR2022]

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[KR2022 in reply to KR2022]

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[KR2022]

I was wrong sorry, one more!

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[Whimbrel in reply to KR2022]

Two hours is nothing to come see and help your partner give birth to your child. You went through something life altering and this life partner wasn't there to support you. And now you're raising the child pretty much by yourself. You're a far more forgiving person than me.

[bethimagic]

I think perhaps you need to look at the entire relationship and coparenting situation. Seems like some toxic masculinity here if he thinks is baby is being made to "look like a clown". two hours is nothing, if he wants to be more involved he would be. If you're doing it all without him I think you need to weigh up the pros and cons of this relationship

[Seb9]

I agree with everyone else, 2 hours is nothing to see your child, some people do that as their daily commute. You're absolutely not the ahole in this situation. I would question whether this is a healthy relationship and what you're getting out of it.

[MissEd]

I think the issue here is about him not coming to see your son and help you rather than him saying you shouldn't have let your mum put minstrels on your son, although tbf I wouldn't be happy with someone doing that to me 7 week old even if it was a joke lol