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Hi therešŸ˜˜,

First time mums or just mums in general.. some stories about how you were feeling and how you coped with anxiety/nerves/hormones?

Been struggling to even think about the subject at times that Iā€™m actually going to be a mum, I have always loved children and itā€™s the one thing I was certain on! Having a family was everything to me.. Iā€™ve got a great partner and a really supporting family.

However when I see tiny little babies or just young children.. I panic(not all the time but 50/50) thinking ā€œhow on Earth am I going to do thisā€ and even though Iā€™ve had a really good easy pregnancy these feelings can just ruin it sometimes cause it makes me feel a little sick, taken back cause theyā€™re just so innocent and the worlds a nasty place.. Iā€™ve deleted Facebook and some social media apps because reading stories online are not helping my nerves?

Like I said at the top: any suggestions/stories to make me feel like I am not a nutteršŸ‘€šŸ˜‚ please x

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I can't tell you how many times my friends and fiancĆ© told me off for panicking over things I'd read on the internet šŸ˜‚!

I suffer with anxiety and depression (more so anxiety) and I will openly admit, I wasn't easy to get along with during my pregnancy haha!

It's completely normal how you're feeling! Everyone used to ask If I was nervous and I'd always so no, I'm excited! Then when my due date got closer and we went in hospital at 37+5 weeks and they said they were going to induce me in a couple of days I felt like I'd been hit by truck! I panicked! How was I gonna do it? What if I can't stop him crying? What if I do something wrong? My fiancƩ is amazing with kids so I never doubted him.

Once our son was born, it was like we'd been parents for as long as we could remember! It just comes to you! It's your baby and no one else is better for your baby but you!

I'm sure you'll be an amazing mum! Xx

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Kata89

Been desperate to have a baby for years. I'm really excited and mentally/emotionally prepared in many ways. But in others terrified and have no idea what I'm doing in others. I didn't think I'd feel like I am, but until you get there I guess you never know. Basically I think most people feel like that in some way and that we're all the same. I'm days away from baby number one arriving and have all sorts of worries, but I keep reminding myself that it will all be fine when baby is here

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amyloolie

I am 27 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and I feel exactly the same. I've wanted to be a mum for as long as I can remember, but over the past couple of weeks I think it has properly hit me... I'm going to have a tiny human to look after. I'm having the 'what if I'm rubbish and can't do it' panic too.

I have no advice but we are going through such massive change, I think it is only normal to feel nervous. I also can't wait to meet this little person and am very excited. It's an emotional rollercoaster, mixed with hormones and the stresses of pregnancy. We've got this x

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Sisi07

Hi, I'm 18 weeks pregnant after MC last year. For different reasons I was panicking at the beginning of the pregnancy about loosing this one as well. Few things helped me, talking to friends about my fears was useful but also plenty of guided relaxation and specially yoga nidra, which is a guided yogic relaxation, was really really really helpful... There are lots on YouTube, also some for pregnant women. Hope this can help you as well.

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