6 Weeks Pregnant & Bleeding

i have recently found out i am pregnant for the 2nd time 20 years after my first (i was 19 with my first) My first pregnancy was ok i ended up with pre eclasmpia and a prem baby.

So recently found out i was pregnant. for the last 18 months my body has decided to be irregular so my last period was Oct 2017. With this in mind we decided to book a private bonding scan to find out how far gone i was. Went to scan and they had to do an internal scan. The lady asked lots of questions which didnt really put me at ease. she asked if i had been bleeding which i hadnt at that point. She then said she saw 2 fluid sacs which measured at 5 weeks and that she was going to refer me to the EPU.

After easter the EPU rung and have invited me in for a rescan on 11th April. I still think it might be too early to tell on things but dont know as things have changed in 20 years!

Since Friday (6th April)i have started to bleed, i rung my midwife and she didnt seem to bother and just said if it becomes heavy go to a&e. She seem to have a very couldnt care less attitute.

The discharge i have been having has been varying in colour and type. i had red blood, small clots, brown, clear sticky fluid but not heavy just on and off now for 5 days. Should i be worried?? i havent been feeling any cramps just more like pressure every now and again but it comes and goes and doesnt last long.

I am so scared, this pregnancy is so wanted, we have waited 16 years i am actually dreading going to the scan tomorrow.

i have been lucky and only been pregnant once in my life and i have waited 16 years for this gift but i am now worried about this bleeding as i never had anything like this with my first. I have also unknowingly had a miscarriage so i just dont know what is expected.

I am worried, depressed and so upset over this. I guess it could be my body making room considering i havent had a period for so long but i dont know. I wish i never found out i was pregnant.

[mrsoneill]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this bleeding in pregnancy can be worrying especially when you don’t feel the midwives etc have the same level of concern. It’s scary and worrying I know but please do go to your scan as they’ll be able to see how things are progressing. There can sometimes be some implantation bleeding at around 8 weeks. I suffered with bleeding up until 14 weeks and had to have an early scan however they never found a reason for the bleeding. I know it is hard but please try not to get too upset, I hope all goes well at your scan. Sending lots of love your way xx

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thanks, now that the bleeding has been on and off for 5 days i am just trying to be realistic. i never had these sort of issues 20 years ago in my first and last pregnancy so its all new. Also being what the NHS call as obese doesnt help my case either, however i do exercise 4 times a week so am generally heart healthy but still get the constant abuse from the medical professionals. (exercise has stopped since the bleeding as just been trying to give any potential baby a chance) i will go tomorrow but just not looking forward to the outcome or their attitude. Maybe i will get some info as to why i was referred as nothing has been said. Thanks for taking the time to reply, i appreciate it. x

[mrsoneill in reply to Hidden]

I really hope you have a better experience at your scan tomorrow I was lucky in that most of the healthcare professionals were really kind. You can always report any bad attitudes/comments to your PALS service as it shouldn’t matter your circumstances they should be there to provide care and advice not judgement or rudeness. I really do hope all is well for you, its a stressful time I appreciate but I’ll be thinking of you xx

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thanks, good or bad i have a night away planned with a friend now at the weekend as my head feels like a pressure cooker. We plan to go to the beach...yeah weather still rubbish but its away from home and gives me space to deal or not deal with whatever happens. Bleeding doesn't seem to be too bad today so fingers crossed its stopping and tomorrow is positive. x

[mrsoneill in reply to Hidden]

Aw that sounds nice, something nice to look forward to and take your mind off things. It’s good to take care of yourself too xxx

[chosenmum24]

did you find out what was wrong I hope it was a positive outcome lovely

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unfortunately yesterday it wasnt meant to be. 2 fluid sacs didnt develop, no yoke or heart beats. Am giving myself 2 weeks for my body to do the natural thing but if it doeant i will have to have a d&c as thats the only option in my area which i wouldnt rather not have to go through but it is what it is. i think knowing they had no heart beat makes it easier for me to accept. i didnt lose babies as such just a long await dream. Plus side of things....my ovaries look fine so i dont have polycystic ovaries which i thought i had, few years till i am 40 so there is a little bit of time to try again and the tattoo i had booked for over a year can go ahead!and my friend is due to give birth soon so i can be an aunt and still play with babies. i think the last 3 weeks i have done enough crying over the unknown that now i know i dont need to cry anymore.

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😢 sorry for your bad news take care x

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thanks. just wasnt meant to be. x

[mrsoneill]

Aw I’m so sorry to hear it wasn’t meant to be this time. I’m glad that there was a few positive things they were able to tell you and there’s some things to look forward to, I wish you the best in the future and hope your dream can come true xxx

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thank you. many women go through much worst so i am thankful it naturally ended when it did and at a point i can mentally accept. x

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Just an update on things for anyone wanting to know. On Friday 13th late evening i had a trip to the out of hours doctor as i was in alot of pain. He confirmed that this was part of the miscarriage (i never had one before) i thought i was dying!! I must admit the Medivo doc was brilliant, he checked my notes online and noticed a recent letter with the wrong date! he gave me info on miscarriage but i had already read it but it was nice that at midnight he spent the time and effort checking me over, reassuring me and providing me with info. When i got home 2 hours after i left the pain got worst then i thought i really was dying, few pain killers later, a hot water bottle and drank lots of water and a very worried husband who hugged me till i feel a sleep. In the morning and since i have felt fine. Bleeding hopefully coming to an end, i still have to do another preg test and i have an appointment for a scan if that comes back positive which i am hoping it doesnt! I posted what happened on fb and was loved alot by people ( we only posted on fb because living in a small town too many gossips and people who knew about our pregnancy which we didnt tell so figured posting on social would let the gossips know the facts) I still dont feel we lost babies just because they had no life but we lost a dream but i guess they were not meant to be as nature took it out of our hands. It has sort of brought me and husband closer and we dont do romance and all that puke stuff lol he was worried and that was enough to know that when i am not strong and when i am being a stubborn cow he can be caring and loving ( i am just too stubborn to ask for help) Last night i was a bit horny (stupid hormones!) and yes i know we cant have sex but we can kiss and cuddle and well there is more than one way to enjoy each other, i think that is point that we both know that we will be fine after this chapter. Thanks everyone who has followed and offered advice and comfort, the world is a strange place but finding comfort in strangers helps. i wish everyone a good and healthy pregnancy and life and i will still of course float about. xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I feel you, I miscarried in Nov the pain is like labour I was drugged up on paracetamol and ibuprofen but didn’t touch the pain had to get codeine off the doctor. I still get emotional now and again talking about it I would have been due on the 10th of June so gutted, and because I’m not pregnant again makes it harder 😢.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

aww sorry about your loss. i am lucky i have perscription co codamols for my back pain. Also lucky i seem to only suffer the one night. am having some cramping again tonight but very mild am just getting bored to death of this bleeding as i hate towels they make me so sore and i am sore with nearly 2 weeks of bleeding so far. feeling like i cant go to the gym because of it and my uterous still feels full and a bit sore. trying not to let it get to me. have to do a preg test next week i swear if its still positive it might just tip me. i just want the bleeding to stop so i can get on with life. i can accept the pregnancy wasnt meant to be and nature took control its the rest of this i am getting annoyed with. x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I was bleeding for 6 days then eventually the clots came out and the pain stopped and carried on bleeding 10 days more got a neg test and had a scan to make sure. Sorry you’ve had to go through it too.

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doesnt help that i absolutely have zero patience lol clots started in the week before the massive pain. i think my body is doing what the hell it wants!! too scared to actually do another test so going to wait till day before hospital appointment/scan. should i go even if i have a neg test result? they told me to cancel if neg test.

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They told me that the appointment stands unless I cancelled it was up to me but I went to be sure it was all gone and had closure in a way they were very nice & sympathetic. I just wanted the bleeding to stop so I could start trying again I wanted to be pregnant 😢 still not happened yet just been told I’ve been referred to a fertility clinic after blood results so hoping I can get some help.

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fingers crossed they can shine some light on things. being very over weight but physically fit all my life i was scared to get investigated as to why i couldnt fall pregnant as easy answer is always weight related. i am glad i fell pregnant just concerned that i had 2 fails at same time. i will probably do the same, go to appointment regardless just to have that peace of mind as i still have pain and a full feeling and fingers crossed no bleeding today so far.