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I hope you are all keeping well.

I have been away as I was preparing to sit for two exams of a Wills and Probate Diploma.

I sat for both papers last Wednesday and last Friday .

I experienced a computer glitch and ran out of time in Part B of Wednesdays paper .

I even cried once the exam was over on Wednesday

I sat for Fridays exam much calmer and finished in time

I will wait until the end of October and then I will know if a further resit would be required for Wednesdays paper

I now find myself applying for a legal placement in Wills and Probate

This will not be an easy task given the Covid impact on the economic survival of businesses .

I am still very lonely abs at time’s my Mother get tired of me saying how lonely I am

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RoadRunner44

OK you had a blip with the computer but you finished the second exam on time great!. First hurdle crossed and well done! Im delighted for you Roukaya. How did you find it? Let us know how you got on when you get the results.

Keep your chin up as we are all trying to do in these difficult times.

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Roukaya in reply to RoadRunner44

Good morning

Thank you for replying

How are you

How have you been managing

I am concerned for the result of Wednesday

I did complete the paper but it was rushed

Wednesdays paper was a resit

I think I was disappointed given the amount of study I had put in

I now find myself seeking activity for a years work experience

I think I am troubled at I am still trying at the age of 51

My Mother is someone who puts her own needs first and when I explain my loneliness she just casts this aside

Very hard to realise that I am always expected to put her first but I am second to her

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RoadRunner44 in reply to Roukaya

Keep concentrating on your own future my dear and not let family problems interfere with this. I too am lonely, just as others are at times. Living alone with our lives on hold is hard at times but we have no choice but to make the best of things. It helps to share our feelings though. A problem shared is a problem halved.

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Roukaya in reply to RoadRunner44

Good morning

I hope you are keeping well

Thank you for your understanding

You were kind enough to enquire as to why I was away from Health Unblocked

How have you been managing?

How are you able to spend your time ?

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san_ray70 in reply to Roukaya

Well done on completing your second exam. If you worry about the first it will not do any good. Now apart from trying to get a job, relax, be kind to yourself. Life is hard, but you have to make the best of it. Join a church if you can, or find out if there is a phone a friend innittiative in your area. You could phone somebody who is lonely, this is what I did and became friends with two new people.

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Roukaya in reply to san_ray70

Good evening

I hope you are well

Thank you for replying

I expect you are right I need to make the effort to make friends

I am not the most outgoing or confident person

But I will try

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Hi Roukaya, nice to see you back on the community. Always keep moving and looking forward. Remember to send out letters to shadow people within firms, you might just get lucky. 👍😊

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Roukaya in reply to bobbybobb

Good morning

I hope you are well

I thank you greatly for listening to me and your kindness is much appreciated.

I have stated applying for roles as an apprentice and I will be looking to apply for a years legal placement

Work shadowing is something I will look into

I am quite lonely but I realise that I should try to look ahead with what I can do as opposed to what I cannot do

I hope you are keeping well

Hi Roukaya, How nice to get an update from you. I'm glad the exams are behind you and try not to worry too much about the outcome. Be stoic about it if you do find you have to do a resit. No-one can predict how and when technology will suddenly let us down!

I don't blame you for shedding tears after the exams were over. There's the relief that it's done now, but also tinged with many emotions that something went wrong which was not your fault but may affect the outcome!

I think you just need a great big pat on the back for sticking with it.

Great idea to think positively and start on looking for placements right away!

Just keep moving forward. With the determination you've shown, you will get there!

Take care and best wishes for a successful result. Do let us know what the eventual outcome is. 😊👍

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Roukaya in reply to

Good morning

I hope you are well

Thank you again for listening and understanding my predicament

I tried very hard for both papers but it is Wednesdays which can go either way

I will be accepting of Wednesdays result as it may well go either way

I will try to persevere and I realise that we all have to persevere in life and believe in our selves and our own self worth

I only have my Mother who is a little pocket rocket and a little Madame at times

But I try to give little mum support but at times I become very tired

I expect it is my loneliness that creates this over dependence at times

I think given this current climate it is essential to be resilient and to have faith in ourselves even if the outcome is not what we anticipate at times

I hope you are well

in reply to Roukaya

As long as you know you have given it your best then there's nothing more you could have done.

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Roukaya in reply to

Hello

How are you ?

I have been reading posts on this website .

You have decided to take a break from the job search but in my view you have tried very hard

As for the first exam , a few glitches took place plus it was a resit for me

It was my first time on line but I did try my best even though it was a push for time for the second part

I was quite heartbroken on Wednesday but I was calmer for Friday

On line added to extra stress I think

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I had a zoom job interview back in June and the technology had played up on that day but I had gone ahead and given it my very best.

I'm glad I didn't get that job as I think I would have hated it there!

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leo60

Hi Roukaya! Just to say, it's nice to see you back on the forum :) We are all here for you if you want a chat, or a moan about your pocket rocket! ;) Take care, Laurie xx

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Roukaya in reply to leo60

Hello

How are you ?

Thank you for reply.

I hope you are keeping well and ready to return back to work on the 12th October

I can understand your anxiety

I was walking home and a person asked me for money

I did not answer him because there is a place which gives food to the homeless where I live .

I have a habit of helping out at times but I was quite worried as he had no mask on but I had mine on

It is essential to be very careful

As for the Pocket Rocket, she is doing a good impersonation of Mrs Victor Meldrew in the sense she is quite miserable .

I have put on weight , I resemble a cross between a Sumo Wrestler 🤼‍♀️ and a dumpling

I have started swimming again

How have you been spending your days ?

But my Mother can be very funny at times

She does people’s voices and mannerisms

I think there is a little child in Mum

She can be quite sweet at times but also quite feisty

Today she has her miserable hat on

She is also a self made entrepreneur so if she was to sell one of her small flats , she would be beaming .

Scary Spice got nothing on my Mum

In all of this , I miss Mum

I am quite concerned with my performance last Wednesday and I have warned Mum if I miss the pass mark I may visit in January

But as Mum is not travelling due to Covid , this will mean me spending Christmas Home Alone

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leo60 in reply to Roukaya

Hi Roukaya ;) I am ok, thank you ! Somewhat apprehensive at the thought of going back to work, but ok if I don't think about it! I will see what the situation is closer to the day as to weather I ask for another leave of absence, the thought of being in the proximity of people is making me very anxious :(

How did you ever remember the date I was due back to work??! In your exams did you have to quote case histories like I had to in the law part of my Business Studies course (100 years ago!!) ? ;) If you did, I bet you got all the dates right! I didn't! :(

I am sorry that you feel intimidated when you are out in the area you live, that is hard to take, especially when you are feeling alone. I It must be twice as hard not being able to easily visit your mother, especially as things are so uncertain. Did you say that she is in Mauritius? And that you have to pay to isolate there? Sounds very strict, but at least you can be pretty sure "Wonder Woman" will be pretty safe!! Go as soon as you can safely xx

I am pleased to hear you are swimming again, I think that has always been a positive for you :) Mine is my garden, I have been trying to spend as much time out there as I can until it gets too cold! But, I am also changing the lodger's old room into my hobby room, so I will have space to play in the colder months! ;) I cannot see me getting a new lodger anytime soon, as there is a lot of trust involved with that now and I think I would rather be safe on my own tbh. Do you have any hobbies Roukaya? Do you think you might (when it's safe again) take up a class? You enjoy flower arranging, for example! Until that time, maybe some houseplants? I have hundreds! (well not quite!) They are a joy. I will post some photos over the next few days and if you like them I would happily post some little ones for you? You could emulate Peter Rabbit in a veg garden for instance?!!

OMG!!! Putting on weight?? Since giving up smoking and taking all these steroids I have put on nearly 2 stone since the beginning of December! Nothing fits so I need to buy clothes, especially as I'm not wearing my uniform all the time !! This is not good for me as I hate shopping!

We both miss our mums in different ways, but nevertheless it makes us both sad and very happy at the same time! What has helped me also seems to help you, talking about her, how she can be funny, demanding or just your mum ! Tell her to take that Victor Meldrew hat off and put on her Victoria Wood one on!!

Go and see her as soon as is possible, Meanwhile take care xx

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Roukaya in reply to leo60

Good Afternoon

I hope you are well

Thank you for your thoughtful reply

I am pleased the exams are over and I should begin the task of seeking a years work to

Today my Father would have been 86 years old so I visited the Mosque which did his final prayers

I accept he has gone but with his demise it is essential for me to find a new direction

I would like to visit Mum but I will wait until the end of October for the results and then I will know if a further resit is required

Mum had no electricity from the early hours until 4 pm

She is not a happy bunny but has incredible determination to carry on and not let anything stand in her way

How is your family ?

Are you getting ready to face work in 12th October ?

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Agoodenough

I’ve been wondering how you were getting on with your exams so good to get an update! Good luck with your results 🤞

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Roukaya in reply to Agoodenough

Good evening

I hope you are well

Thank you for your reply

All I can say is that I tried but I have concerns for Wednesdays exam

I was much calmer on Friday

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Agoodenough in reply to Roukaya

Well good luck. I’ve been thinking of you xxx

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Roukaya in reply to Agoodenough

Thank you

I hope you are keeping well

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Agoodenough in reply to Roukaya

Yes thank you Roukaya. I’m fine. Keeping busy and keeping well which is the main thing xx

Hi

I'm so pleased you are back on the forum. I was wondering about your exams. Well done on how you coped with the glitch. Onwards and upwards!!

Take care and stay

Love and hugs Lynne xxxx ❤️🤗🌈💜

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Roukaya in reply to

Good Evening

I hope you are well

I did not cope with the glitch , it actually threw me a little and this is why I am concerned that the result may go either way

I hope you are keeping well

in reply to Roukaya

Thank you

You deserve to pass with all the hard work you have put in.

Take care and stay safe Lynne xxxx ❤️💜

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Roukaya in reply to

Thank you

I hope you keep well

in reply to Roukaya

Thank you

I'm not too good tonight, thank you.

Love and hugs Lynne xxxx ❤️🤗🌈💜

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Keep well

in reply to Roukaya

Thank you xxxx❤️💜

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GhoundsReading Rabbits

Hi!

Have you thought of offering to do a month or so without pay? In the current climate it might be easier to gets a foot in the door that way.

My experience of working for legal firms was that they loved paying as little as possible.

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Roukaya in reply to Ghounds

Good evening

I hope you are keeping well .

I thank you for listening to me during the day’s leading to the exam and the day of the exam .

I think you are very right and well experienced in that legal firms like to pay as little as possible

I started applying for three apprentice roles in Wils and Probate but I will have to keep applying for many on a speculative basis .

I agree that going in voluntary for three months may be a way to start .

This is something I will put on my covering letter

Excellent idea

I hope you are well

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GhoundsReading Rabbits in reply to Roukaya

You're very welcome.

Good luck! You have a lot to offer and don't forget it. Any firm would be fortunate to have you.

Also an unpaid position can often lead to a "proper" job.

I'm fine thank you.

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Roukaya in reply to Ghounds

I think it is a very good idea

I could put that I would be willing to volunteer for three months with the review to a further nine months on a min pay

I can see your logic

In any event , given my lack of exposure to real life case studies and work pressure , this would start to develop my ability to work within a pressurised environment

Thank you for having faith in me

I hope you are managing

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GhoundsReading Rabbits in reply to Roukaya

I have great faith in you. You are much stronger than maybe you realise and I want to see you achieve your wonderful ambition. You have many friends here all cheering you on.

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Roukaya in reply to Ghounds

Very sweet words

I shall remember your kind and encouraging words

May God Bless you and make your life filled with peace and happiness

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GhoundsReading Rabbits in reply to Roukaya

Thank you so much for that. I truly appreciate your praying for me.

May God always watch over you and help you achieve your dreams.

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Roukaya in reply to Ghounds

I thank you for your kind words

In fact you helped me to come to terms with Wednesdays paper when you said that many students who study a great deal do not necessarily work to the best of their abilities during the exam

This is exactly what happened on Wednesday

I have warned my miserable Mum if Wednesdays paper goes either way I may be spending Christmas Home alone in UK

Mum would always come over for Christmas but due to Covid she is not running the risk by travelling .

I thank you again for your understanding

I hope you are keeping well

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GhoundsReading Rabbits in reply to Roukaya

I'm so pleased I was able to help you.

I'm not sure anyone will be able to travel far this Christmas. I suppose a lot will depend on how effective the current restrictions are.

I'm sure your Mum will understand if you don't go over this year. Of course if you are working by then your time off will be limited anyway.

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Roukaya in reply to Ghounds

Very sound advice

Keep safe and well

God Bless

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thara9643

Welcome back!

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Roukaya in reply to thara9643

Thank you

I hope you are well

How are you ?

I last read that you are thinking of going to London for the Chinese New Year

I really like London , I spent a few day’s of my a Birthday there

I had a very few good day’s

But London is vey expensive but incredibly interesting

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MidoriVisually impaired

Shame about the computer glitch, but good for you to finish one paper! lets hope your resit goes well.

Glad you posted again, as I was getting a little worried because we hadn't heard from you for awhile. Didn't want to interrupt you and distract you.

Hope all goes well with your search for a placement.

Cheers, Midori

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Roukaya in reply to Midori

Good evening

I hope you are well and I expect your home must be completed by now

As for the exam I sat for two papers , a resit was on Wednesday the day of computer glitch and Friday

I did finish the paper on Wednesday as I rushed the second part of the exam

I managed to compete both papers but I rushed to complete Wednesdays paper

I hope you are well

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Sierrastar

Hi Roukaya!

Thanks for the update about your exams. I was thinking of you last week, and wondering how things were going. When do you expect to get the results?

I think the suggestions you have been receiving regarding possible employment are spot on. Much better to be in a law office gaining experience than worrying by yourself at home.

Let us know of any progress.

Elizabeth🥰

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Roukaya in reply to Sierrastar

Good Afternoon

I hope you are keeping well

I have been away for a while and I said I would return back once the exams are completed

I struggled with the second part of last Wednesdays exam and was able to cope better with Fridays paper

I am worried but as you rightly observe the advice is quite correct

I should apply for a years work experience and to start by doing three months voluntary work

It certainty beats worrying at home which is what I am doing at the moment

How have you been managing

How do you spend your time ?

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Sierrastar in reply to Roukaya

I am managing very well, Roukaya, since I have CLL and COPD I have been self isolating since March. However, I have lived alone since 1997, so for me, it’s just situation normal!

I had elective surgery in August and again in September for the removal of kidney stones. Glad to be rid of those!

Best wishes, Elizabeth.

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Roukaya in reply to Sierrastar

The results are due at the end of October

Kind Regards

Keep well

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Sunfloweronline

Well I’m so glad that you got through the exams R! I’m sensing a new direction in your post and gonna wish you all the very best!

Life is difficult for all of us at times, but, if we can tap into a good mindset and pursue it with determination we are empowered!!!!

All the very best, put your own life first and foremost, go online maybe or join a pen pal group???

😊💕

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Roukaya in reply to Sunfloweronline

Good Afternoon

I hope you are well

I think you may be jumping the gun a little.

I sat for the two exams last week

I had a tough time with part B of Wednesdays exam and was able to complete in a mad rush

I was calmer for Friday

The results are due to come out at the end of October

I did my best but I am concerned the result for Wednesday may go either way

I am still tired with the exam

My Mother is always turbo charged

Incredible how someone at 72 can be so busy that I have to book an appointment time to call in

I am trying to find a new direction but you are so right it is the determination and self belief to face the results and find a years work experience

I did apply for three apprenticeships but no reply

I will start to apply again for a years work experience with the request to do three months voluntary

I hope you are keeping well

I think I should try to broaden my horizons

I am not very good at making friends but this site is very kind and understanding

How are you managing?

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